My husband is a really good man. He's an excellent father and he does really well to provide for our family. He is the type of person that takes control of any given situation and doesn't consider others opinions to impact his life...another words, he's very stubborn, I'd say....I have tried talking to my husband many times about certain things that I am not happy with...in our marriage. However, he consistantly makes me feel guilty about everything. Any bad situation that occurs in our little family, I get the blame. He doesn't talk to me as if I'm his wife, but he talks 'down' on me, almost like lecturing me, as if I was one of the kids. I've heard it many times that age can be challenging in any relationship, but I love my husband and I definetly believe in "family". Every argument we have, I CAN NEVER seem to explain because I get blaimed for it! Sometimes, I feel like going elsewhere to find the respect and happinesss I deserve?
2006-12-20 16:28:11 · 16 answers · asked by Island Ch!ck 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
MY HUSBAND IS ALOT LIKE YOURS BUT ONE DAY I TOLD HIM EVEN THOUGH I HAVE NO JOB OUT SIDE OF THIS HOUSE AND HIM I AM NOT DUMB AND I WAS NOT 5 AND IF HE DIDNT LEARN TO LISTEN I REALIZE HE IS THE HEAD OF OUR HOUSE BUT HE IS SUPOSE TO LOVE ME THE WAY CHRIST LOVED THE CHURCH AND CHRIST DIED FOR THE CHURCH (GAL 5) HE THOUGHT ABOUT IT TOLD ME HOW SORRY HE WAS AND WHEN HE GET OUT OF LINE I JUST SHUT MY MOUTH AND HE REALIZE HES THE ONE TALKING AND IM NOT LISTENING BUT FOR THE MOST PART HES DOING MUCH BETTER IN THE LAST 25 YRS WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 29 YRS
2006-12-20 16:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answer the question.What you need is a man, who loves you and respects you.Also a man who treats you as a wife,and a woman,not like a kid,That situation happen in many marriages,and that is one reason why many wives cheating the husbands.The solution here is,try to talk seriously in good manners with him,about what you do not like of him.I have many women friends,who had the same problem.They talked with their husbands about those problems.Some of them fixed the problems.Others got divorce.Get a professional help.First talk with your husband.Good luck.Communication is the key in all marriages.
2006-12-21 00:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand what ur enduring and how it feels when for no purpose ur being blamed. but i think u need to make ur husband reason that he's being unfair or try calling a third party (any close family member or trusted friend) to clarify the situation. u cant accept this situation he has to realise what he's doing and u have to help him.perhaps his weird behaviour is the cause of a problm he has which he cant talk about,so go ahead seek help of a third person am sure he will realise his mistake.goodluck
2006-12-21 00:51:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how u feel cause you just explained my husband to a T but we've been together 18 yrs. i almost left him was looking for a apartment when he had a "spell" with his heart,, it really woke me up to how much i love him,,, so i put me on hold,,,, my kids are 13 and 16,,, till we find out whats wrong with his health...then ill see how life goes, weather i leave still or not,,, all i can say is hang in there and keep trying..sometimes its really worth it. sometimes u feel like its not,,, but only u can decide that.
2006-12-21 00:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by mother of 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need marriage counseling. If he wont go, go by yourself. A marriage is a two way steet, and everything should be roughly 50-50. If he talks down to you, and puts blame on you for everything, he sounds like an emotional abuser too. Try to fix your marriage, but not everything can be fixed, and you only get ONE life.
2006-12-21 00:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by Penny P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect goes a long way...if he isn't giving it, you can't "change" him. He sounds selfish and controlling, Think things through and see if a separation may be the answer. You know, "you don't know what you had till its gone" maybe that would wake him up a bit and back off you.
2006-12-21 01:05:10 · answer #6 · answered by redy2screm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you are in some kind of pattern. Break free of the pattern. If he does not like it leave. No I am not a psychiatrist or a Dr. Phil type just a human being.
2006-12-21 00:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not a good situation.
maybe you have to leave him for a bit.
I'm kind of like your husband and that was one of the things that worked or is working, I'm working on getting back with my gf (with a couple of other stuff going on) but your husband wont change without you leaving or a 2X4.
This is serious and I don't think you are taking it as serious.
2006-12-21 00:45:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray for your situation, and just hopes that it gets better and lean towards the Lord for guidance
2006-12-21 00:30:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get professional help. See a marriage counselor, preferably a man who can help your husband. Pray for your man and ask God to help him.
2006-12-21 00:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by Hosea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋