Do you ever feel like this?

Question

I feel like people have no real respect for me. I feel like people like me but just don;t respect me. They take advantage of the fact that I'm young looking, small, shy, have a high voice to be condescending and make fun of me. They feel like they can just make fun of me and be condescending so they can put themselves above me so they can feel bigger than something. They I feel like if it's me and another person in a room we have a nice conversation but if someone comes in they just start talking to the other person and hardly acknowledge me. I feel like if a new person comes to our school sometimes they'll go to me to talk to first but soon move on to someone else and just forget about me. I can't tell you how many times that has happened. It's wierd knowing people like you but at the same time knowing they have no respect for you.

Answer 1

This is not unusual for teenagers to have this happen to them. I think adults are ignorant at times and don't get the idea of manners.
This all comes down to the way our society is these days. You never got by with that type of treatments years ago, everyone was kind and respectful of everyone they came into contact with. Now if they don't know you they don't acknowledge the fact that you are alive.
I've told my son to not let it slide. He has to stand up, if it's a gentleman that interupts, extend his hand and introduce himself and if its a girl extend his hand and kindly ask her name then tell her his. That way he is automatically part of the conversation.
It is a polite way of telling everyone that they are being rude, without telling them straight out.
Respect is not what is going on here, it's manners, trust me.
You have to show them how to be mannerly and that will make it hard for you for a while, you always have to be mannerly and always happy.
I have a friend whom I respect and like very much however sometimes when we talk I have to really work at the conversation. There are too many pauses between sentences and I feel that she is not listening. Study what you are doing and see if that could be one of the issues. If it is, work harder at talking.
It will get better as you get older, but remember always keep the conversation going at all costs, smile and being loud is okay, you have what most want a voice that makes people stand up and pay attention. Use your voice to your benefit, shy...well, that is a self confidence thing and you need to believe that you are very special and have something to offer to everyone you meet and everything you do is wonderful - if it only is wonderful to you, it is still wonderful. Try looking in the mirror and be honest and tell yourself what you want to change and slowly work on one thing at a time and work it to where you like what you see then move to another thing, before long you will be the princess of the ball....
You've got what it takes, laugh when laughted at, smile when frowned at, talk when not spoken to and be happy at all costs!

Answer 2

You know what hun, It doesn't matter how those others see you. What matters is how you see yourself. Those that snub you or are condescending to you or ignore you...those are just rude and don't deserve your respect. Also, If they are not willing to give respect don't expect it. You don't have to stoop down to their level but just remember how they truly are and when its time to move on, do it. Everywhere you go nowadays you will find others who couldn't give a darn about you or anybody else but themselves. But don't let yourself be drawn down by it. It probably has absolutely nothing to do with you. If you hold your head high and are a gracious person, those that are like you will find you and you won't feel so alone anymore. Then you will realize that none of the others were meant to be in your circle anyways. They aren't worth the worry.
I was very shy in school, and I ran across the same thing. But when I found friends that treated me with the respect that we all deserve, they were true to me and I to them. Others come and go. I am 30 and still have my best friend that I met when I was 12. She gave me that respect and love and friendship that I thought nobody else would. We have held on to that since and it will never leave us.
Don't worry so much. Keep happy because someone out there is waiting...

Answer 3

I'm alot older than you, but I felt like that in school. Kids are just mean. You have to have confidence in yourself, most of those thoughts we just make up in our head , if you present yourself as being more confident you will see things change. I know that's hard at times but it does work.

Answer 4

=some kids are immature jerks. In time you will find your own thing in life. Do what you like to do and start to hang in different circles.