She is a very good friend of mine and has been having a difficult time with some terrible marital issues as well. It seems like she has been bombarded as of late with some horrible situations, and I feel for her. I don't want to be the friend that gives cliche or meaningless words or advice. Any thoughts?
2006-12-20 16:08:33 · 8 answers · asked by vh360 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just be there for her. She will probably end up doing all the talking once the dam breaks loose. How sad. How sad for you too, because this is your friend that has to go through all this.
Bless both of you.
2006-12-20 16:11:17 · answer #1 · answered by maamu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a terrible situation. The first and most obvious step is to simply be there for her if she needs a shoulder.
If you want to give practical advice do some research into the illness for possible support groups or agencies that have experience in that area. Financial aid groups may be useful depending on the illness as she may be incurring huge medical costs or need to make home improvements to accomodate her child.
Maybe she would appreciate a hand with small day to day stuff, just hanging out or doing some housework or chores, especially if she is now busy with specialist appointments etc.
2006-12-20 16:21:42 · answer #2 · answered by aims48 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Just listen to her, know about the disease, get the scientific information.
2. Research on the net. Google it. There might be articles on cure. Or news items of persons who have got cured completely. You can also get info on latest line of treatment.
(Your friend is in a panic stage, and her mind may not work. Also you can by researching give her positive news & hope. Also avoid her from seeing any negative stuff, that may bring her down more.)
3. Based on research, try to draw up a list of hospitals, which can help her. You can distribute this among your friends to make the search faster.
4. Approach hospitals by email/phone/directly and get information on the cure / process / cost / any sponsers / clinical trials.
5. If there is a high cost involved, you can try to set up a support group to enable her cause.
I know that this is a lot of work. If you are her best friend and love her a lot, as a family, this will be the best way you can help. You can also seek help from other close ppl and try to divide this work.
Be there, talk positive and pull her through. And whatever happens, be there.
2006-12-20 16:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by HurryHarry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can say to make everything seem any better & you should say that while you wish you could that's not possable. However you can encourage her to think on the positive side & remind her of the positive things. Remind her that while you sincerely wish you could make everything better you are not God or a doctor but you are a truely caring friend & will stay by her side no matter what.
2006-12-20 16:18:09 · answer #4 · answered by Turtle1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her when she needs you and listen more than you do any talking. She's probably going to be beyond what advice and books can give right now. It depends on the person what you can do. Call just to say hi and see how she is doing occasionally. Go out for coffee and let her vent.
2006-12-20 16:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A hug and a person to cry with. What she needs right now is to truly know you care about her child. Research the illness so you are as well informed as possible. It is the best sign to show her child is important to others.
2006-12-20 16:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by Dreaming Dragon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes no words are the best words. be a good friend and be a shoulder to cry on.
2006-12-20 16:10:56 · answer #7 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to trust in Jesus. This is not only to console her but it really works.
2006-12-20 16:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by Nats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋