What about people who find true love and then lose it? Is that it? Is it over for them?
2006-12-20 16:03:42 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For some of us, yeah its over. I believe you have only one great love in your life, while you may "love" someone else you only have that one great , true kind of love once if at all. Its hard for me to even start to figure out what to do. I am still very much truly in love with someone who is gone, but trying to date or replace her is impossible so I am alone. Maybe someday I will allow someone else to get close and in turn possibly fall for them but I doubt it. When its true it just doesn't go away no matter how hard I wish it would sometimes, so I wait. If everything does happen for a reason, than there has to be a reason why my feelings for her have never grown cold with time. Some people spend their whole lives searching for that one true love, someone to make all the doors and windows of their soul fly open. We rarely think about what happens when we lose it. It was the most beautiful, meaningful time of my life and the same thing has also become my worst and most heartbreaking downfall as well.
-NmD!
2006-12-20 16:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you can never love the same way twice. What you share with your first love is very special. You could never duplicate that. Think that that person keeps a part of your heart and when you see that person even after many years your heart will probably skip a beat. But this does not mean that you can't enjoy a different love. Or even a better love. You can probably find some one that you love even more. it would be a different love since you have more experience and you will probably seeing things in a more realistic way instead of seeing things like a fairytale like most of us do the first time. It will be different than a first true love but it will be better in its own way. A lot of people say that you are lucky if you love two times in your life. i think you are lucky if you love once. A lot of people don't get the chance and never find the person. But what to do? C'est la vie right? Live and learn and continuously improve your self.
2006-12-21 00:11:21 · answer #2 · answered by JV 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Those are two seperate questions. You can't replace that one true love or your first love or the last dog you had or a dress you really enjoyed wearing......etc etc. Why would you try? Those things are in the past, in your heart, in your memory and that's where they belong.
No it is not it...it is not over for them...
Go out and meet new people and keep yourself open for a new relationship. If you wear a sign on your forehead that says "I have loved and lost my one true love" you'll never find another.
By the way, I think you and Nomad should meet. He sounds like an incredibly gentle soul.
2006-12-21 00:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that I believe in just one true love per person. I do think that you can have many loves and some are just better suited to you than others. I had a guy I thought was 'the one', but after really considering it I saw that we had different goals in life and as much as I loved him (and still do) he just wasn't the one for me at that point in my life. I am now married to someone else and very much in love again. I hope that we stay together til death, but the reality is that one of us may pass before the other and I would like to think that we would be able, at some point, to find love again.
2006-12-21 00:09:14 · answer #4 · answered by Momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before and after you finally find true love, it's a big probability that you have loved and lost a couple and then some. it also means that one of those could be the one that is your true love and you already lost that person. OR that you loved and lost a couple of them to prepare you for THE one. to prepare you for the person who is really meant for you to have and hold for the rest of your life. and even if you did have the one true love before and lost it, don't you think that it's better that you were able to experiencing to love and be loved so purely that it hurts? it is a priceless experience that cannot be bought nor replaced and as the saying goes, "better to have loved and lost than to never have loved before." more or less that is how i recall it. lol. it is a matter of perspective my friend.
2006-12-21 00:25:41 · answer #5 · answered by Acidburn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes there are plenty more fish in the sea.
time changes and feelings change and there a more people in the world other than one.
if that person has everything you want and you love them for who they are then of course your going to be able to replace that one true love you once were in love with.
although some people don't like change and just don't want to let o when it's over.
2006-12-21 00:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by Millie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can replace that one true love entirely, but the alternative is living alone which is the extreme. I think you can find companionship and someone special to share the rest of your life with..
2006-12-21 00:13:00 · answer #7 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one will ever replace your one true love. If you really do think that you found your true love and you let him/her slip -- you are screwed. You blew it. It won't happen again. As you get older you will become more picky and selective and you will have a harder time see true love.
2006-12-21 00:39:06 · answer #8 · answered by maj.pollack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "one true love" can not be replaced! It is completely possible to love again, but its not like that soul mate love.
2006-12-21 00:09:17 · answer #9 · answered by Topaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's probably down hill from there....once you loose your onre true love no else can ever replace it,someone might come close but it won't be the same dude........i say if you still can fight for what you want until it's too late....if it's too late,then looks like there's gonna be lots of cold,meaningless sexual relationships
2006-12-21 00:09:19 · answer #10 · answered by Digz 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋