A lot of adults think we are kids and we dont know what love is she is only 11 and im 14...When she was in 2nd grade she got raped and ever since,some things heve been happening in her life that no one would want to happen to them.She called me this morning and told me that it was over because she needed some time because she was going thrue a lot but i asked her if there is hope that we would get back and she said most likely not but she still loves me a lot.I have never loved anyone like I love her she is the perfect match for me and I beaged and cried all day to her by phone so she would get back with me.I thought about suicide but I realized that if I did it, I would never have a chance to be with her and im still here.She is the love of my life and im loosing her.im not like most guys that they are after 1 thing and one thing only witch is of cource...Guess? yeah you guessed it Sex,I dont think of her like that ever i swear.People please tell me what to do to get her back.Please!!
2006-12-20 16:01:51 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
11 and 14?????? Wow talk to a counselor SOON!!! Run if you have to.
2006-12-20 16:07:40 · answer #1 · answered by The_Game 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You've gotta call in the big guns on this one. Tell your parents, a teacher, the cops, or someone you trust. I wasn't 14 THAT long ago. I know you know what is right and wrong and I also know that most people think of you as a little kid still. Trust me buddy, get some REAL help for this girl. Once she feels safe, she'll be able to relax. A lot happens between 11 and 14 though. Take it easy dude.
2006-12-20 16:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by DrRocco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You state she has been thru a great deal in her life already at eleven and that you love her so - well then love her enough to respect that she is requesting some time to distance from you and other things in her life to gain perspective herself......
to take your life over something not working out with another person is simply cheating yourself and provides no help to the person you are leaving the "burden" to.
Have to question an 11 year old already getting romantically involved with someone much less someone at your age.
Rethink this entire picture before you both get hurt or bring in a greater care for both of you!
2006-12-20 16:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by Marsha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay. you dont want to hear it, but you are kids! I thought when I was 10 I found the love of my life. We "dated" or whatever you want to call it for five years. Guess what? We broke up. It has been seven years I dont know where the heck he is. I'm over it! I'm sorry that your relationship is over, but if she has to deal with some stuff then she has to deal with some stuff. Be supportive as a FRIEND. If she doesn't want you anymore then you can't force her to.
You said shes had a lot of problems. Well don't be another problem for her. Be as supportive and loving as you can without smothering her!!!!
If she is the love of your life it will happen again. Dont worry it might just take time.
DO NOT COMMIT SUICIDE FOR A RELATIONSHIP! You are only 14 you have your whole life ahead of you!!!!
2006-12-20 16:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by Lola 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One of the hardest things to do it let things unfold itself. It is not the end of the world as it feels. Sometimes it takes time. You can't force the situation and you have to be willing to let someone go. All you can do is let her know that this is not what you want but you will respect her enough to give her the space that she needs. You need to be strong and not let someone take advantage of you either, but care about yourself enough to know that whatever becomes of this you will be ok. Tomorrow will still come and you need to get out and stay busy not dwell on it! Let her make her choice as well. Be strong and keep an open mind for letting yourself grow into a wonderful person that you are. God is there with you, you just have to talk to him.
2006-12-20 16:09:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems like you really care for her, but unfortunately if she does not want you back, then that is her decision. The best thing to do is become her friend that she can rely on when she needs somebody there for her. If you are always there for her, then maybe she will change her mind and get back together with you. BUT..what you son't want to do is scare her off or piss her off and make her hate you, because then there won't be any chance of her wanting to be with you again. Maybe she just needs her space right now and wants to be alone. You have to respect her wishes of what she wants right now. I hope that things work out for you and her. Good Luck!!
2006-12-20 16:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 15 yr. old daughter and she has been through this. The best thing you can do is agree to give her some time but ask her if the 2 of you can remain friends til she gets her problems worked out. Try asking her if you can her with her problems, if she says no then go along with her and just be a good friend to her.
2006-12-20 16:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by acestjohn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am gonna give to you straight. she probably is the love of your life and you will NEVER know another love like this one. but i do want to point out that you have an entire lifetime ahead of you. when your 14 everything is intense and you dont look at the future because you only live in the moment and dont really see your life at 20 or 30. but believe me you will more than likely have dozens of relationships and none of them will be like any of the others that you expereince.....if you want advice, the best thing to do, is give her the space she is asking for. back off, no calls, no stalking, just let her be....if you show less interest in her, she will start to chase you...i know it sounds screwed up and backwards but, both sexes love a good challange...give her one...let her come to you...it will be hard, i know it, i have been there..let her come to you...
2006-12-20 16:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by Evie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this your first real relationship? If so then you really cant be sure it is true love! Give yourself some time to enjoy being a single young man. There is a whole world out there to explore. You will thank yourself in the end.
2006-12-20 16:13:54 · answer #9 · answered by friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were 18 and she was 14, then it'd be illegal. But it's not illegal. Just give her some time to reast and think some things over. Maybe in a month, you can talk to her and just see what's up. If a girl says it's over, don't push it, just let it go and wait. Then talk later.
2006-12-20 16:05:16 · answer #10 · answered by PZ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh, sweetheart. thats so nice, but, your girlfriend is dealing w/ some major issues. and although people your age (and some adults!) CAN love, they dont always have the experience in life to manage a relationship. maybe you & she can be friends for now; that way you could still have her in your life & care for her. good luck to you- you never know what the future may bring.
2006-12-20 16:06:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋