I wnat to buy my husband a chair massager for Christmas but the truth is It isn't something that he has ever said that he would like to have I have never been able to even get him to try one but I know that I would use it too. Do I sound like I want it, so I want to buy it for him and hope he likes it. I try to buy him things most of the time that only he would like or use. Please help I don't want him to think I actually bought it for me
2006-12-20 15:23:29 · 14 answers · asked by nina b 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
Do both. Get the chair massager and also get him a boat load of tools. Tools! Tools! Just my unbiased, male opinion.
2006-12-24 02:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by furiousstyles22003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it could go over well. Many men have "their chairs" or "favorite chair" they like to watch tv in, or the Sunday football game. This could be something he could relax in while watching tv (if he watches a lot). But, to be sure, so you don't waste your money, just ask him indirectly. Tell him you're thinking about buying something like that for your sister or brother or someone, and ask him what he thinks about those chairs and stuff. Figure out some sneaky way to at least get an opinion out of him. There's usually a row of 4 or 5 of those things at most major shopping malls. Next time you're in one (a mall), and with your hubby of course, try to pull him over to one of those chairs and see how he reacts. The real issue here is, whether you would use it or not, if it's really something your husband would use. If it's supposed to be a Christmas present at least make sure he'll actually use it (which I know you're trying to do). Good luck.
2006-12-20 23:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by gabound75 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother and I were talking about something similar the other day. Very often we want to buy gifts for people that WE like, because we think that THEY will like it, but in actuality, it is a selfish act. We should be thinking about the gift receiver. Yes, it is true that the both of you will probably use a chair massager, but is it something that you want, or something that you think he really wants? If it is something thatyou want, maybe you can hint to him, or buy it as a gift to yourself. Just some food for thought.
2006-12-20 23:33:37 · answer #3 · answered by Toadsputum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not suggest like I do to my husband that we pool our resources and buy something extravagant that we both would really like for the house. This is a win-win situation and nobody is worried about the other person liking, fitting, or being angry and upset. It can even be tickets for an all inclusive vacation somewhere fun and hot. This has worked for us for years and we love the tradition. Good luck and Merry Christmas.
2006-12-21 15:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie... Here's what you should do, tell him to get you a massager for Xmas, drop hints or etc... Do whatever you have to do to let him know you'd like a massager- if your the type that wants to be "surprised" and not know what your going to actually get, but other then that...
I feel you are the one who wants the massager and truth is... he might not say it but he'll feel like it was just your way of getting it for yourself, especially when you just may be the one enjoying it the most!
Get him something he'll use, like and love but this doesn't mean you can't get something you both could enjoy but this is xmas and it is the spirit of giving unto others... you know. So you would do unto others as you would have done unto yourself... therefore, how about one category of gifts for just him, one for both of you to enjoy and share as a couple; and one for just you.
How would you feel if he bought you something he wanted and then your like.... I don't even like this or I don't need or I don't want- not saying you'd actually come out with those words but you know; and then all of a sudden you see him with whatever it is or he's using whatever it is or he's having fun with the gift he bought you, etc... that was supposed to be your xmas gift and had your name on it but it's his name that's written all over it!
Example: Football tickets (if you hate football) when he knows you don't want to go and you won't go and he's already like well honey... I guess I'll just go, so they won't go to waste... Oh by the way do you want your ticket because Don (best friend) said he'd pay me for it---(knowing he's not looking for payment.)
2006-12-21 10:03:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ARE you buying it for you?
anyway, why not do both? buy him the chair and then buy him something really great that screams just HIM. you can both enjoy the chair (and maybe together!), and then you also show you care by making the effort to find somethign special just for him.
2006-12-20 23:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not just give him a Gift Card 2 His Favorite Store that way he can pick out what he wants..That's what I do 4 My Husband and he loves it lol.Good Luck
2006-12-20 23:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can say that you bought it for both of you. That way if he doesn't like it you would not have to take it back. Or simply ask what he would think of the gift for someone else to gauge his reaction on it.
2006-12-20 23:27:32 · answer #8 · answered by sim_maroon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A chair massager sounds great. He would enjoy it and maybe would let you use it too. lol
2006-12-20 23:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by Tenn Gal 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Buy something for him alone. Then go out and buy yourself a Dictionary, You spelling sucks
2006-12-20 23:26:37 · answer #10 · answered by Angell 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋