I dont know what to do I care about them both but the guy that is married satifies me in every way He makes me feel good about myself. He says that he will not leave his wife now. I'm going crazy when I try to stay away from him or not talk to him. He calls me and tells me all the things i want to hear. Some of my friends tell me to just enjoy the ride, try not to get too emotionally involved but its a little too late he tells me he loves me all the time. Then i have other friends that tell me to stay away. Any advice for the confused???
2006-12-20 15:16:13 · 30 answers · asked by snuggles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
deep breath... love sucks sucks sucks.... sometimes... like when it's all wrong but feels so good. I think you should let them both go and find yourself again so you can pick one that you do not have to cheat on to be happy and he doesn't have to cheat with you to be happy. It's not fair to you or them.
2006-12-20 15:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by littledreamergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There r so many problems with ur situation. For beginners y r u involved with a married man? Have u even stopped 2 think about how his wife is feeling? Being left alone while he is out screwing u? Then what if u were married and a woman was cheating with ur husband? Then the man that u r engaged to what about his feelings or r u saying *** him? U put urself n a fuked up situation and n the end everybody is going to b hurt. Ask urself y do u believe that the married man luves u but he won't leave his wife 4 u? Come on he is just having a good time at ur expense. U need to reevaluate ur life becuz something is wrong inside.
2006-12-20 15:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by 2good4hem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guy who is married is a DOG!! He is a cheater, plain and simple. He tells you he loves you but he will never leave his wife. You know he tells her he loves her too, and he obviously loves his wife more then you. Of course he is going to tell you what you want to hear, he knows you will keep coming back to him and hes got it made. Wife at home and sex on the side. As for the guy you are engaged to, you need to come clean to him that you are cheating. Maybe he will forgive you and you guys can move on. Let the married guy go. Would you like your fiance to cheat on you? Probably not. Good luck with whatever you decide.
2006-12-20 15:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well a good friend would tell you this. A man who is married and is not willing to leave his wife and be with you is not in love with you. Or his wife. He may be afraid of his wife, but he is not decent enough to respect either of you by the sounds of it.
And do you love and respect your fiance. When are you getting married. This is not off to a good start.
Spend some alone time and get your head on straight. Figure out what you want. Maybe its neither of them.
But do it for yourself. Dont be controlled by a man.
2006-12-20 15:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL I SAY IF GUY #1 IS GOOD 2 U THEN LET GUY #2 GO BECAUSE ALL U R GOING TO GET OUT OF ALL THIS IS A BROKEN HEART. Y CHEAT ON GUY #1? DOES HE TREAT U BAD OR HAS HE CHEATED ON U? IF NOT THEN UR HEART BELONGS 2 HIM AND NO-ONE ELSE. TRUST ME WHEN I TELL U ALL U R GOING 2 GET OUT OF THIS IS A BROKEN HEART. LIFE ISN'T FAIR U COULD ONLY LUV ONE GUY. I KNOW IT SUCKS BUT THAT'S THE WAY IT GOES. GUY #2 IS TAKING U 4 A RIDE HE WILL NEVER LEAVE HIS WIFE 4 U. ALL U R IS THAT FUN AND EXCITEMENT HE IS NOT GETTING FROM HOME. AND IF HE DOES LEAVE HER 4 U ITS GOING 2 B A VERY ROUGH RIDE, TAKE IT FROM EXPERIENCE.
2006-12-21 03:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by Baby Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I've been down that road before. It was hard to be in love with both women. And yes the other was married. i had to let go the married one coz she was not going to leave her husband. I was just being unfair to my girl friend. I could not have that problem in my head everyday...my girlfriend was always good to me...I felt gilty alot...I only ask God to get me through this..The married one would always contact me, and tell me how much she loves me so much, but i had to fight the feeling..and back off..But in all, u will have to deside..somebody will get hurt from this. U do not want to continue with bothe men...the main thing is..U are going to have to be honest with youself, and what you want. I did, and it was the right choice. send me an email if u like to talk about it....
2006-12-21 09:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by win14w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
truth is i get you- AND i have a married man friend--after 4 yrs our friendship is good BUT THERE IS NO SEX. his wife even knows about me. i have a boyfriend who finds this amusing. we both know not a damn thing will come of it. but when sex is involved emotions can be nasty and hurtful later- distance yourself from him- the married one for a while and if your engaged that it should be a relationship where your not thinking of the married one. my situation is different and boundaries were made from the start. i'm not saying my scenario is right either but still, the one you love is the one you should trust and communicate and sleep with. MARRIED MEN NEVER LEAVE THEIR WIVES- EVEN THOUGH MY DAD SIGNED HIS DIVORCE PAPERS THE DAY HE MET MY MAMMA AND GOT MARRIED 1 YR LATER- but all im saying is this isn't good and maybe this marriage thing with #! should wait a bit till you get some space from MR MARRIED MAN. trust me i think of my married friend but only like a friend. i could never sleep with him and hurt another woman like that. you really shouldn't either. how would you like it if your husband was shtupping another female? no. let MARRIED GO. IF YOU WANT TO TALK, EMAIL ME.
2006-12-20 16:47:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just imagine being married to him and doing the same thing to you that he is doing to his wife now!! "He will not leave his wife now?" He will never leave his wife as long as he has someone that makes him feel wanted such as yourself. He is enjoying this fantasy with you and you must be crazy to even waste a minute of your life thinking about him. One more thing, u should let go of that man you are engaged to, because you are not worthy of him. He needs someone much better than you are who is trustworthy and you are not...
Happy Hunting...
2006-12-21 10:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by Mark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie I wouldn't worry too much about either man...the outcome of it all is going to be that you lose both men. The man you are engaged to will discover your nasty little affair with the married man and dump you....the married man's wife will find out about you ....and her hubby will ditch you then.....problem solved. Just hope the wife doesn't have friends named Smith and Wesson.
2006-12-20 15:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by slick chik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can u go out with someone that is married??
first of all men never leave their wife for someone they just have sex with.Second of all it's clear u don't love your fiance , why do u wanna get married if it's gonna end up with a divorce??
leave both of them,and find someone else
2006-12-20 15:26:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋