lately I have been feeling very bitter because I feel like I am missing something. I don't know why I even bother to buy nice clothes because I never go anywhere.
2006-12-20 15:11:44 · 16 answers · asked by fighting 40s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Based on some of your previous questions, I have no doubt you feel like life is offering you nothing right now. But if you truly think you are missing something, you have the power to do something about that, if you want to. But you've got to be willing to take better care of yourself first, and that means requiring your partner to pick up the slack.
I just recently did the very same thing in a certain area, and I'm feeling less stressed, more relaxed, I like myself better, I can think more clearly. I have always been a person who would rather take the weight of the world on my shoulders than see anyone around me deal with stress or anxiety, but guess what? Life is FULL of stress and anxiety, so I finally decided it's no longer my job to bear it all so others can kick back and relax and watch me kill myself by working myself into exhaustion.
So my advice to you is follow my example, because unless you treat you right, nobody else will see the need to.
2006-12-20 15:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My two cents: Stop spending money on new clothes. That doesn't mean you can't still spoil yourself. Instead, do the manicure/pedicure "spa thing", or treat yourself to a nice "expensive" meal, or perhaps an hour long massage. Like a lot of people I'm sure, most of my time is spent working. I feel I'm missing something to. Work gets the best of me, and often I'm too tired to do any real "living". I play golf as much as I can, and spend the rest of the time loving up on my kids (9 and 4) and family. If I were still a young, single man I'm sure I'd be trying to party every weekend. Don't feel bitter. At least, don't feel as though you're all alone. Very, very few people, if they're really truly honest with themselves, can say their completely happy with their lives and/or situation. I'm not. Like most I think my quality of life would be better if I were rich, or at least had way more money than I have now. But I have people to love and people that love and take care of me. In the end I guess that's all that matters... I guess. :-) So stop being bitter and worrying about your clothes. It's all good. Just take everything in stride...
2006-12-20 23:19:49 · answer #2 · answered by gabound75 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get up at 6 most of the time go to school, leave school go to work in dr. office, leave work and run errands for the dr i work for bc i am also his personal assistant. After I do all that I go home to my husband who feels neglected tired, and sleepy, which in turn I make up an excuse why I don't feel like having sex everyday. My life is very busy but I thank god I actually have a life
2006-12-20 23:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go to Church and make friends there.Or you can talk with your friends,or invite them to your home.How you feel,thousands of people feel the same.sometimes we feel lonely,or with stress or depression because we are not going to some place.What you are missing is the happiness of living.Does not matter, if you go or not go to some place,you have to be happy with yourself everyday.When you wake up,when you see yourself in the mirror,you can say: thank you God for made me so beautiful,Thank you God for I am a healthy person,etc.You need to find something that motivate,encourage yourself to feel good.Think positive,never negative,that will change how you see the life.I work everyday almost 10 hours.I came back at home,happy to take time together with my family.I think life is too short to be upset,so,I am happy all time.God bless you, and help and comfort you; to feel happy.Talking with yahoo friends will help you a lot.Good luck.
2006-12-20 23:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel pretty much the same as you. I work. I don't go out much. What I'm missing is a nice woman to share my life with. You can e-mail me if you would like to. Maybe we can help each other with these holiday blues.
2006-12-20 23:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you know what caused you to start feeling bitter? Alot of people start feeling blue around this time of year. Maybe you should try going out with some friends.
2006-12-20 23:16:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW HOW YOU FILL I GET A NICE OUT FIT AND I MAY WAIT MONTH B/F I GET TO WEAR IT WE ARE KINDA BORING FOLKS ITS NOT THATIM NOT HAPPY BUT WE NEVER GO ANY WERE BUT CHURCH AND BASEBALL AND EVER NOW AND THEN TO PIZZA HUT OR CRACKER BARRELL WOW! WHEN OUR KIDS WERE SMALL I DIDNT MIND BUT NOW IT S JUST US THEY ARE GROWN I WANT MY TIME YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN I HAVE BEEN TELL MY HUSBAND OUR NEW YR RESALOTION IS TO GO SOME WERE NICE AND OUT OF THE ROUTINE AT LEAST ONCE A MONTH OR SO I WANT TOGO ON A CRUSE AND TO A BED AND BREAKFEAST TO SOME NICE RESTANTS ECT ECT HOPE YOU CAN MAKE A NEW BREAK FOR THE NEW YR TOO
2006-12-21 00:10:33 · answer #7 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey you ain't alone.i have been feeling the same way to lately,but to be honest you ain't missing nothing.see i was so bitter to,i left my hubby for two days and all i was missing was him.what your missing is right near you so grab a hold of it,and don't let it go>>
2006-12-20 23:30:10 · answer #8 · answered by tigerisexxy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go places. Dress for success daily and others will notice. Even if it's a trip to the store.
2006-12-21 00:30:26 · answer #9 · answered by ndvsne1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I go to school everyday, and I'm on my comp everyday. So I lack the motivation to actually study for anything. :)
2006-12-20 23:14:20 · answer #10 · answered by AnnaLee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋