my boyfriend and I have been together for a year and we live together. I belive in a man being a provider but at the same time we are partners so we help each other. From day one , he made it very clear that anything that involves money should be split 50/50 , even dinner . I did not like the idea I agreed. I am a giving person and at times I will do something and handle the entire cost.He has a crappy car so we use mine all the time but we split the gas 50/50.I have no problem with this or going the extra mile coz I love him. His family is coming to stay with us for holidays and I am short on my car not by $40.00. I am getting rid of my debt so I really was hoping he would be able to help me with the $40 but he told me that he cant coz he has to send his mom some money and have money for the family that is coming in. I am not saying that what he has to take care of is not important but while his family is here , my car is what we will be using. Am I wrong to feel hurt?
2006-12-20 14:59:28 · 8 answers · asked by praise t 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes/No.
Yes you have a right to be hurt because he did not discuss this 50/50 family decision.
No, you have a right to be proud and hold on to this gem who cares for his family. If he cares for his mother - then guess how the other woman in his life will be treated?
2006-12-20 15:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong. But be hurt and get over it. I don't hear that either one of you are saving a dime. Split your money 50/50 with yourself first. If you can't afford to go half on dinner then stay home a cook dinner. Share that with him. You have a great plan for a roommate. But in a marriage the women is the helpmate not the halfmate or the provider. You may need some new rules.
2006-12-20 23:08:33 · answer #2 · answered by TBAR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it sounds more like a business agreement than a relationship. If you have been together for a year and everything is still exactly 50/50, this relationship isn't going anywhere.
2006-12-20 23:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a business deal..but i dont think ur wrong for feeling hurt..but maybe you should talk to him about it..!
2006-12-20 23:23:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not only getting hurt you're getting sh*t on. You should dump his sorry ace and before Christmas too. Get rid of the sorry bum
2006-12-20 23:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by roy40372 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he your man or your business partner? All i'm going to say is "To the left to the left."
2006-12-20 23:05:17 · answer #6 · answered by naya w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course, it's only $40! he is being a cheap tight a#$! kick his mooching a#$ to the curb asap. he wants to ride in your car, but not help you pay for it? loser!!
2006-12-20 23:07:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oooo honey u r right! u must talk to him and tell him how u fell about wat he's done to u! Then if he did it again u need to think about it seriously....
2006-12-20 23:05:17 · answer #8 · answered by PEARL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋