my husband is having a cisis or something he recently lost his job and now wont do a thing do i just need to just let him be or should i get on his *** to get a job
2006-12-20 14:41:50 · 19 answers · asked by mileamin69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get on his *** to get a job... it takes two to pay for things not one. let him know that you are there for him.
2006-12-20 14:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by c_kaper@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should encourage him but don't allow him to stop looking for a job.
Give him a time limit because the longer he stays away from his job the longer it will be before he wants to find another.
If you really want him to find a job quickly give him a daily chore list. He may not stay out of work very long because of the work load at home.
Keep communication lines open on how you feel about him being out of work.
If this still does not work, give him an ultimatum and inform him that if he does not find a job soon you will not stand for it any longer.
One way or another he will get the hint and hopefully change for the better.
Hope this helps.
God Bless.....
2006-12-20 23:01:01 · answer #2 · answered by ye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a little time to get out of this slump. He needs you to reassure him that he has value as a husband and a man. It takes a while to find a new job, and he will feel bad enough about that without you nagging him to get a job.
2006-12-20 22:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you love him. Losing a job is hard, what we do for a living is a big part of who we are. He may need some time to adjust. Be supportive of him and make him feel like this does not diminish him as a man.
2006-12-20 22:46:56 · answer #4 · answered by shadouse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the thing you can do... that is if you have kids... Have him babysit for a few days and take care of the house hold while you work... You tell him that since he isn't working that he is now responsible for all demestic chores and cooking and etc....then it will not take to long until he will be looking for a job.. you just sit down and prop your feet up and give him the list of house hold chores you want him to do for that day... do not make staying home easy on him....
2006-12-20 22:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by Autumns Destany 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, you know your husband a helluva lot more than we do. We don't even know why he lost his job. You know him, you know his moods, you know what makes him tick. What do you think? You should only "get on his *** if it's his fault that he lost his job. But you already know that, or you wouldn't be asking here. Trust in your relationship with him, and decide what is best. If you really love him, you'll find your choices aren't that difficult.
Good luck
2006-12-20 22:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by stretch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to assure him of your love and support now more than ever. Show him that he's your man no matter what life throws at you, that you're sticking by his side.
Sounds trite and old-fashioned, but if he's got any kind of gumption, this is what he can use to get motivated and do everything he can to get another job. If he doesn't have that kind of gumption, then when kissing his butt doesn't work, then you can start kicking it.
2006-12-20 23:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is depressed. You need to be kind to him and tell him positive encouraging things that you sincerely feel about him. He probably doesn't feel much like a man right now. Men get affected that way when they lose a job.
2006-12-20 22:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by JAM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same spot! Give him a little time but not as much as my guy did cuz now I am having a hard time picking my self up. Get out of the house and keep him busy as much as possible!
2006-12-20 22:46:24 · answer #9 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give him till the New Year then get on him...its hard to look for a job around the holidays and I am sure he is a little depressed. Good luck_
2006-12-20 22:46:04 · answer #10 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him the vacation is over, bills are due, frig is getting low and you need to be able to watch the soaps in peace, so get off his *** and get a job. The longer he waits to try, the longer it will take. Oh!! and do you work, if not, tell him looks like your going to have to get out and find a job yourself if he is not.
2006-12-20 22:47:30 · answer #11 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋