Any tips on how to get rid of my anoying friend?

Question

i dont wanna hurt her feelings but she just has problems what sould i do!!!! i just hate her so much i cant stand her and if you dont feel like posting it here than email me at [e-mail] tell me some ways to get rid of her plzplzplz!!!

Answer 1

if u hate her then shes not your friend just tell her how you feel and dont say it in a mean way

Answer 2

Hi,

I've had these kind of friends before. Let me guess, so much negativity, drama or addiction that they are unpleasant to be around after 5 seconds?

I'm going to assume that you don't want to do it directly as this person might already be a sniveling mess and you're not going to kick them when they are down. Now, this involves some lying and manipulation, but in the end, you'll feel better and nobody is getting hurt with the white lies...plus lying and manipulation are natural, we can't always tell the truth.

Before the dumping begins, I'm also assuming that this person is refusing to help themselves; with therapy, anti-depressants, quitting smoking crack, stop sleeping with everyone else's boyfriend....and other things that would ease your pain of listening to them.

How to dump friends:
1) Meeting in hallway or classroom...."Sorry I gotta go:
a)need math help
b)to the bathroom
c)can't be late again
If she's in the class ask the teacher a question about moving your seat.

2) Trapped by phone call multiple choice....."Sorry, I gotta go:
a)my parents need me.
b)my parents want me off the phone.
c)I'm grounded from using the phone.
d)I'll call you later (then don't!!!)

3) Ask your teacher/adminstrator to switch your locker, explain to them that you're avoiding trouble and don't wish to be in that "trouble" area anymore. If they ask for specifics tell them that you don't want to talk about it.

4) Don't answer/take their calls in the first place...."Tell them I'm busy" works. The person who's trying to call will eventually give up. You have caller ID, right? USE IT to screen your calls. If that means not talking to all of your friends for awhile, DO IT. Switch phone numbers is best with a "new carrier" but that's extreme and your parents might not do it...even with the truth. If you switch numbers don't give it out for awhile, then slooooowly give the numbers to a few TRUSTED people with instructions NOT to give out your number to ANYONE. When you increase to five and nobody has told the target, then increase to 10. By this time the target is out of the loop after a couple of weeks and hopefully is on to making someone else's life a living hell. People like what I think you're describing need constant attention. As such, they are whores for it and will move on when you ignore them for long enough.

5) On myspace and IMing set yourself as invisible, or ghost mode. You can still read your friends blogs. Just don't read "that" persons blog because you'll want to call them/help them/fall into their abyss/swirling vortex of doom....again.

The main thing about my generalized suggestions is that you are to have NO contact with this person other than "hello, gotta go". Almost none. However, my point is to make it as non-confrontational as possible, still smile and be friendly, so that it seems natural drifting, like you have A.D.D. for friendship. They'll think you're just "flighty" and "not serious". After a good while when they are no longer in your circle, feel free to still say hello and be cordial, but don't engage in conversation, because that sends a bad message. Then after a long period of time, this person may "right" themselves, but you can find out about that from other people. Don't engage unless you're sure that you want this person back in your life again.

There's a point of give and take in every relationship but if it's unhealthy and the person takes too much all the time. On top of that they refuse to see a therapist or counselor and still dumps on you....well then you're totally justified in dumping that load. I'm an anchor on some of my friends some of the time, but they know that I give also. It takes work to make any relationship work and if your stressed out and not getting anything in return...drop that loser.

Remember, I got rid of dead weight friends and so can you. I felt bad about it at the time, but when they fell further and further....I realized I wasn't sinking with them. I made the right choice, some of them are dead and some are in jail and the rest are still the same losers....and....I would've been a loser too.


Take care,
B

Answer 3

tellher she is gettin on ur last d*** nerves,,


or heres the nicer way

tell her that she needs to give u some space and that u need some time wit urself or oder frends too.

Answer 4

Just tell her that you don't think you can be friends anymore. Tell her why you don't want to be friends and leave it at that. If you don't want to actually tell her, just stop spending time with her.

Answer 5

Tell her that she's a psychopath and she needs therapy. And add the snapping fingers "oh no you didn't" thing for spice.

Answer 6

hangout with different people. i have a friend like this i try not to talk to her that often, but still make SHORT conversation. Here's a trick when your friend is trying to talk to you talk to another friend and make it look that your really into it.

Answer 7

tell her u need some space, and if she still doesn't then try finding her a bf or something so she can annoy him , ik thats cruel, but wat can we do if we're desperate?

Answer 8

im the one who e-mailed u in red writing!!!!

Answer 9

SAY IT FACE TO FACE, I DONT LIKE UR ATTITUDE.