Boyfriend of 5 years. We have known and been best friends for almost 10 years. I left her 8 years ago before we got married because I didnt think i was good enough for her..I wanted her to have someone better. We stayed friends over the years and never stopped loving each other. She has been in a relationship with a "boy" now for 5 years. They have 2 children. He will not marry her or take care of her or the children. He has cheated on her, left her numerous times, and even got another gril pregnant while they were together and I'm the one she always comes to for a sholder to cry on. Yet she is still with him. I asked her to leave him and marry me and she says she wants to and she will, but ive been waiting over a year. She promised me we will be together and married by next christmas. Her children love me and I take care of her and them even though she is with him. I love her with all my heart and would do anything for her, but it hurts not knowing. How long should I wait, am i crazy?
2006-12-20 14:37:08 · 6 answers · asked by Shaun F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she really wanted to be with you she would.
She may very well love you but not enough to disrupt the life she has now.
You shouldn't wait for someone to let you know when you can be happy and live your life.
Take your power back and move on.
2006-12-20 14:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this woman is obsessed with her boyfriend and is using you. Even if she married you, it sounds as if when her boyfriend would beckon she would go to him. Don't ruin you own life. See the situation for what it is. She has lifelong problems and you will wind up alone.
Try seeing other women, giving yourself the opportunity to be with someone who appreciates you and wants to make a life with you.
2006-12-20 14:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by madisonian51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww. love is so tough. poor you.
no, you're not crazy. i think that you should wait it out, but not forever, give her maybe six months and then give her some sort of ultimatum. make sure you're not just kidding yourself. look at the situation objectively and see if you just really WANT to believe her or if you actually think she'll go through with it. good luck.
2006-12-20 14:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a great guy but when it rains, it pours. if she keeps going back to that guy, that means that she either doesn't know what she wants or she doesn't care for you as much as you do for her. if you really love her that much, go ahead and try but dont be surprised if you get hurt.
2006-12-20 14:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by ShellyBelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any evidence that she is taking any active steps to be with you, if the answer is no then she probably won't. Move on and find somebody who deserves you.
2006-12-20 14:47:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
back off! issues did no longer paintings out in the past for a reason. it quite is basically worse the 2nd time around. save your nostril out of her existence for awhile and that i guess her relationship together with her boyfriend will enhance.
2016-10-15 08:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by thedford 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋