Well, about five years ago I had found myself in love with a close guy friend of mine. Although, it was clear he liked me too, he never asked me out. (Had the courage to.) After a few months, I had to move to another city and we lost contact ever since. Now that I am in a new city, there are tons of things that made me just move on from him. I even fell in love with another person. So just today, my friend and I decided to call friends back in our old town. Of course my cousin actually had the number of the guy I used to like. I didn't think much about stressing to call him, because I love someone else now. My cousin and I were on the phone with him and he seemed really interested to talk with me. After we hung up with him, I felt really akward. Is it possible that I still love him? I don't want to though, we are are in different cities, and I just don't want to forget about the guy I love in this town. What do I do and why do I feel this way?
2006-12-20 14:35:32 · 22 answers · asked by Mimi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Infatuation. You are in love with what was.
2006-12-20 14:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YIKES!!! wow. um yes it's possible that u still love this person. when i moved from New York to Georgia just a year ago with my family, i had some 1 i like. his name was Robert C. vaughn. he was the cuttiest guy in the world 2 me!! he ask me if i wanted 2 go out with him and brake up with the girl he was already going out with. it was about 6 days before school was over and it was gonna be summer break. i said no beacuse we wont be going out for long. and i said i dont wanna break u and some 1 else up. im not like that kind of person. i really loved him and i still do even though were about 14-16 hours away from each other if u drive and 2 hours away if u fly. so yes u can still be in love with come 1. and yes i do like some 1 here as well. now i think he is the vutes guy in the world. but im never gonna forget about robert because i love him. let me tell u something. the first person u love in ur live will always be ur true love. or ur before love will always be ur true love for ever and for most. right now i really miss him and love him 2 death. and i still like the guy that's here in georgia. what u should do is sit down a while and think about it. and then u'll know. but i still love robert more than i love this new person. and his name is micklye. the new person i like. but yes, i did also lose contact will robert. i did. and im trying 2 get my other friends 2 get his number for me. so remeber make a choice. and my name is Tiffany. aka lady.t from upstate new york. rockland county. and i miss my old school Hillcrest Elementary!!
2006-12-20 14:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
AH! Old friends and lovers do make sweet memories don't they. Well I would say that you are remembering the way you used to feel about him and he will be on your mind for a while...all the things you used to feel for him are kind of welling up all at once and that can often feel like you have unwittingly rekindled and old flame...and the memories are special...don't let him slip from your mind too far...if things don't work out with the current guy you might want to try again with the old guy some time...He was a close friend and he prolly does miss you to some degree...keep his friendship and cherrish it...it's almost impossible to find a guy FRIEND these days...besides it might be nice to keep in touch with all the news from your old town!!! It was nice to talk to him wasn't it? Why can't that continue if you are faithful you have nothing to worry about...
2006-12-20 15:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say: A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush. Keep your current boyfriend. Your old bf had his chance 5 years ago and he dropped the ball. He will probably be dropping balls for the rest of his life. Don't move backwards.
If your current bf is not working out completely, then look towards meeting someone brand new. It's unrealistic to attempt to go five years backwards in time, to chase after an old idiot childhood crush boyfriend who failed to meet your expectations 5 years ago, and will certainly not work out now either.
Don't call old boyfriends. It's complicated and a huge waste of time and emotional energy. There are over 6 BILLION people on this planet and 1/2 of them are guys. Either stay with your current bf or move on to new people.
2006-12-20 14:44:22 · answer #4 · answered by Ayliann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still have feelings, yes. And most likely always will. But if you were never a couple I doubt what you felt even then was true LOVE. I had a major crush on a guy in high school and I admit that he is still a crush even though I am about to marry. But I know what I felt was a deep adoration, not love. I love my future husband. I was good friends and wanted more with the high school crush. (Don't get me wrong with the word crush... it wasn't as fickle as it sounds.)
What you need to worry about is if you really are willing to run to a guy you were able to forget for years and forget about the one you are with now.
2006-12-20 14:40:49 · answer #5 · answered by tryingmybest79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel guilty. Its absolutely possible to continue to love someone from your past. Why should you not love them, it was a special time and a special person. As long as you are not doing anything against your present relationship. This kind of love is a beautiful thing, it is totally natural for you to have warm feelings and wish the person you loved only the best in life. You are doubly blessed, still have love for the person in the past and also having someone to love and have love you back in the present.
2006-12-20 14:41:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said goodbye, left town. You have another lover. You talk to old lover on phone. You do not want to still love the old lover. You do not want to forget about the guy you love in town. Your questioned answered by you. Leave the past alone and keep on moving on.
2006-12-20 14:42:50 · answer #7 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be fighting with temptation. It is possible to love someone after a long period of time. I loved someone for 10 years and that feeling has never passed. Everytime I think about that person I get sentimental. I haven't seen them, though.
2006-12-20 14:39:57 · answer #8 · answered by Common_Sense2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, If you like both guys the same then it will be a hard choice but see if you like one more than the other, if you like the guy that lives in your old town then don't lose contact with him, call him, get his e-mail, you could even visit him during vacations. If its the guy in your new town then just ak him out!!!
2006-12-20 14:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible? Yes. I know from experience I've been separated from my friend for years and we luckily met each other once again at the same school. Meet each other and catch up on things. Chances are the person you once liked also still likes you. Love can only be simmered down not disappear.
2006-12-20 14:40:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually yes. If you haven't seen this person, but yet think he's cute after is totally acceptable! If that that's what you feel inside, than you should feel that simply way. It's what you feel inside the heart ♥
2006-12-20 14:40:20 · answer #11 · answered by *andrea. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋