I love him and he said he love me too but the problem is, he's 56 and I am 23 and his daughters doesn't want him to marry a girl younger than them. But he said the only problem about us is my age. And he also thinks of what other people may say about us especially in their church.
2006-12-20 14:34:59 · 9 answers · asked by cuty_casper 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he is worried about what others will think that is never going to go away so while he may love you it is not enough to want to be with you unconditionally regardless of age.
2006-12-20 14:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by squirttle_bunny 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he loved you then what other people though wouldn't even cross his mind.....There is a big age difference there, I'm not trying to talk you out of it but just think about this....you are still young there is so much you still need to see at 23 you haven't even started to live life. Think about it in 10 years when you are 33 and he is 66 how much in all honesty would you have in common?? Do you want children?? Does he want anymore children?? Don't cut yourself short over the first guy that says "I love you" because if he really means it he would prove it by saying you know what this is who I chose like it or not!!
2006-12-20 22:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by Floridapurrfection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may have a chance of working if his daughters would approve, but with them against it you probably have no chance.
That is a huge age difference. What have you decided about children? He is getting pretty old to start over again. Are you willing to give up the idea of having a family?
What attracts you to a man old enough to be your father? Have you thought about that? Search your heart and soul for the answer before you marry him.
What attracts him to a girl younger than his daughters? Isn't that a little strange? Just a few things to consider.
2006-12-20 22:39:40 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that no matter where you go or what you do, some people are always going to gossip and think bad about others. Tell him that is something he's just going to have to accept if he's worried what others will think about him. I'm a very spiritual person but don't like to church that often because there are so many hypocrits. If he wants to be with you, he needs to accept what everyone will think.
2006-12-20 23:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by Lara Croft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your age difference is too great. When you are 40 years old, he will be 73 and you will be obligated to take care of him.
Think about all aspects of this relationship. Do you want children? Does he? Can he afford them? Can he help you take care of them?
2006-12-20 22:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by madisonian51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you if he loves you or not but I can tell you that love is a very power emotion and if somebody told me that I couldn't be with my husband I would fight for him and not really care what others thought about it
2006-12-20 22:45:42 · answer #6 · answered by mom of 2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok can you say robbin the craddle. but it is your decision. and the heck with what the othe people say in the church.
2006-12-20 22:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by c_kaper@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loved you then he wouldn't care what other people thought.
2006-12-20 22:38:23 · answer #8 · answered by sweet sweet me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he does and very much
2006-12-20 22:38:34 · answer #9 · answered by Nubia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋