what do u do when someone cheats?

Question

Do u forgive and forget or get rid of them. How can u trust them?

Answer 1

If they aren't person enough to remove themselves from the relationship, then you should leave. Simple and effective. You need something better than that person.

Answer 2

They say "once a cheat, always a cheat". Some relationships can be worked out if the person that cheated is "truly" sorry. This does depend upon the relationship. You will have to do some serious thinking about this. Ask yourself: How stable is this relationship? Do you think the other person is completely happy? What would be the reason for the cheating? Will they do it again? (HINT: probably) Can I learn to trust this person again? Cheating is a form of lying! You will ultimately have to make the choice. Hope it's the right one. Moving on can be difficult, but the only way sometimes. Good luck!

Answer 3

It all depends on the situation really, has he done it more then once, is he truly sorry... Personally i am a believer in giving someone a second chance and giving them the benefit of the doubt that they truly love me and wont do it again. However if they should happen to do it again then they are taking advantage of you and i would kick him to the curb. Having said all that, you will NEVER forget what you were put through during that period of time, also depending on how far your feelings run for this person, but to put it passed you you have to forgive him if you want to be with that person and give him another chance!!! It's hard to trust them again even when you decide to give him another chance, and alot of the time you will question yourself and question him as to what is "really going on" if he goes out with a friend and what not. People say you shouldn't do that if you decide to take them back , however whoever said that has oviously never had that done to them, because it really is harder said then done!!! I say if this has happened to you keep your head up and be strong, follow what is in your heart... And Merry Christmas!!!

~CHEERS!!~

Answer 4

You sit down and talk to them about how what they did made you feel. You tell them that you don't deserve to be cheated on. You forgive them once because mistakes happen, but you let them know that if it happens again, you're gone. No exceptions! Trusting them isn't going to be easy but if you guys love each other enough, you can work through anything.

Answer 5

I usually hold it over their head for a while, then I work on getting past it. I do try to forgive, but I NEVER forget! And I never completely trust them again.

Answer 6

I forgave them and kept them.

Trust became earned again after a time.

Because I love my spouse, and all kinds of stupid things happen to each of us over the course of a life time, and sometimes its just nice to have a second chance.

It helps if you think how cruddy you would feel in the same situation if the tables were turned and it was you committing the offense.

Answer 7

you can not trust them....sadly that doubt will always be there in the back of your (or their) head. If there are no children involved RUN! If you/they feel it needs to be worked out for childrens sake then get professional help. Good luck!

Answer 8

How could you ever trust that person again? You would wonder what they were doing every time they were out of your sight.

I personally would never stay with someone who cheated. I take my vows seriously and expect my husband to take them seriously, too.

Answer 9

If you really love the person and trust them not to do it again.It is up to you to make that decision.Good luck

Answer 10

get rid of them