Should I give up on trying to make new friends in high school at this point? I'm a senior and will be out in 5 months. It's hard for me because of my depression, social anxiety disorder, avoidant personality disorder, and just hating myself in general. Sometimes I really want to be friends with them, other times I just get so frustrated with myself I don't even try and just keep to myself. They like me enough as an acquaintance I guess, I'm nice to them, and I think I'm going to get them all little christmas and birthday presents. It's like I guess I know they like me enough but I can't convince myself of that or go talk to them, and I worry that that has hurt my chances because they think I'm not interested but I'm just shy. I had facebook (myspace) for a while to keep in touch and talk to them a little more but I couldn't take the stress and got rid of it and now I've lost that connection and possibly upset them. But I just cant approach people
2006-12-20 14:13:22 · 13 answers · asked by leena 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This may sound stupid but you have to like your self and know who you are before other people can like you, so work on you and stop wanting friends so bad, and join clubs and stuff that you like to meet people, its never to late to try just dont get your hopes up to high, and high school is really stupid, make friends in college, its way better. ps dont buy peoples attention, those are never the firends you want!! Luck!
2006-12-20 14:20:22 · answer #1 · answered by kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, Do not give up, because if you are having this much trouble with going up to people then you r going to have trouble after you graduate!
you will be stepping out into the real world and the last thing you need is no friends or anybody to talk to!
All you have to do is first pray! Then you say I am going to do this and walk up to just ONE of them first, when they are alone if its better for you-now the best way to do this for the first time is having a present you got them for an excuse!
and then say happy holidays or birthday, or whatever!
Then it will make (who ever you want to get to know most) get closer to you in friendship and like you more!
I would get back on my space (if you can) and get as close as you can to them! that way there will be ALOT more chances of them talking to you and going up to YOU more at school!!!!
GOOD LUCK AND DONT HAVE FEAR!
2006-12-20 22:34:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're problem is the stem of hurt. You have been let down you're whole life havent you. You have had countless times in you're life when you were always made feel you arent worth the time of day? Am i right?......
Have you any idea how beautiful and wonderful you actually are?
Have you any idea of how unique you are?
You are worth more than you think. You just dont see it.
Look in the mirror.
What you see looking back is the love you give to those who love you most.
THATS WHAT YOU GIVE TO EVERYONE and NO present can match up to that. You are fine as you are. You make everyone happy, even though you dont know that fact yet.
MERRY CHRISTMAS DARLING.
I will be thinking of you as does EVERYONE you come in contact with.
2006-12-20 22:27:20 · answer #3 · answered by tomy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and I have similar personalities so for the most part, I understand you. Well my best advoce is to know that everybody fears some sort of rejection. People might actually see you as being snobby because you dont open up. You dont have to be overfriendly to people. Just be genuine and get to know them. make yourself vulnerable for a change.
2006-12-20 22:19:55 · answer #4 · answered by ShellyBelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
practice talking with your parent or sibling's friends you haven't met yet, they might teach you some tricks and tips or just start from scratch, met a new person possibly with the same disorder and get to know them better anyways i wish you great luck and happy holidays
2006-12-20 22:20:26 · answer #5 · answered by paramore rules 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it always feels better 2 have friends....but if it doesn't really bother u then don't worry about it. If u want 2 hang around w/someone try e-mailing ur closest aquantiances 1st and after u feel comfortable aroud them try talking 2 them in skool
2006-12-20 22:18:27 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God places people in a lives.
Sometimes it is for a moment.
Sometimes it is for a few hours.
Sometimes for a day
Sometimes for a season
At one time it could be someone for a lifetime.
Enjoy those you met and be thankful that God has allow them to cross your path. You never know what you might learn from them.
2006-12-20 22:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by 2 know Him & 2 Make Him known 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am feeling self destructive at this point, so don't listen to me.
I would just say screw it man. I really don't need anyone anyway. I don't care if they all do anything at all. I am lonely and feeling overused during this Christmas, so screw em all. You can always meet new people later. Take care of yourself first. I am.
2006-12-20 22:18:38 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, dont ever give up! try appraoching at least one person..start with how are you, about the homework or what happened on weekend..try to be interested in them and ask questions and try to relate your own experiences....it is not that easy i know...but keep trying and it will come naturally..good luck...
2006-12-20 22:19:19 · answer #9 · answered by vincent m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
na u should just be ur self caus ur leaving in five months.
2006-12-20 22:17:49 · answer #10 · answered by dhpapichulo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋