Now that my ex wife is remarried, who is responsible of getting the christmas present for my kids mother? Is it me or their new step-dad? I don't mind doing it at all, I was just curious as to the ettiquette of this scenario.
2006-12-20 14:09:37 · 18 answers · asked by barryinindy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like something you want to do, based on your comment. However, I wouldn't. It sounds like the children are being used as a proxy for you to buy her a gift. You/she divorced you/her. Her new husband can front the dough for the kids to buy "mommy" a present. If you wish, you could give the children money for Christmas spending/buying, but you shouldn't supervise how/what the children spend the money for. You're divorced, let it go.....send your ex a X-mas card if you feel the need...
2006-12-20 14:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by stretch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time depending on the age of the children, the ex gets the gift from the kids. Don't try to get to involved in the gift process because it's too personal and it may offend the ex or her new husband. But just let the kids find something that is appropriate and buy it for them. Good Luck and Marry Christmas
2006-12-20 22:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea D. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your kids would like to get a present for their mother then it would be nice for you to help them pick something out. (It is not necessary and it would have a lot to do with your relationship with your ex) It also depends on the relationship the kids have with their step-dad.
You aren't obligated to help them buy one but it would be nice and show the kids that you are all still a family.(just in a different way)
2006-12-20 22:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, in this case since those are your kids with her, it's your responsibility to get that gift saying it's from your kids. Her now husband will get his own gift for her. Your not actually obligated to buy her any gift. Christmas doesn't make gifts mandatory. It's really suppose to just mean family being together. You can buy her that gift saying it's from your kids, until your kids get older they will buy the gifts themselves. Until then, it's really up to you.
2006-12-20 22:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get along all right, then it's fine to get her something. Just try not to get jewelry, flowers, or anything romantic her new husband might get her. Better yet, let the kids pick something out, or get something she could really use, not a pretty accessory that would be better suited for her husband to get. You might cause jealousy problems if you get something like that.
2006-12-20 22:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are their father so, it should be you. It's good to know that you care enough about this and your children. You're probably a great dad.
2006-12-20 22:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the kids (or help them) pick out somehting for thier mom.
2006-12-20 22:30:12 · answer #7 · answered by beagle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your children and let them pick out the gift for her, that would be the best thing to do. merry christmas and happy new year !!!
2006-12-20 22:27:53 · answer #8 · answered by babyboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should. No matter what happened between you and her, she is still the mother of your children.
2006-12-20 22:12:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your place because those are your children and their mothers.
2006-12-20 22:20:56 · answer #10 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋