how can she receive a husband's initiation for sex? Just for pleasing him, is it the main thing?
2006-12-20 13:49:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Apparently the statement made, was " If a wife does not want to engage in sexual intercourse, how can she percieve his intiation of sex" Thats what my interpretation was.
To answer my own restated question:
A woman will only agree to intercourse if she is stimulated ( turned on) and has a desire to engage in sexual relations. However some may just agree to do it, and get it over with, but trust me not every woman wants it. You can't make anyone do anything, even if it is your wife, forced penetration is still by law, considered rape, and therefore you are better off beating your peter.
Try to get her to do it by buying toys, or sexual education videos.
(not porn, theres a big difference trust me)
ASK her what she wants you to do for her. ( Don't say it angrily, that will only piss her off)
Initiate a make-out session, and let her know it turns you on by doing so.
Whatever you do, try and cater to her needs first, then she'll get all freakay for you!
Good luck and stay safe.
2006-12-20 13:56:54 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm going with the assumption that you are asking how to get your wife to respond to your attempts at initiating sex....what exactly are you doing to "initiate"? Saying things like "hey baby I got a big one for you" are about as stimulating as watching paint dry. if all you ever do to "touch" her is rub the same 2 inch by 2 inch spot on her back for two seconds and then hope she gets the message that you want more, then you are NOT initiating. A man's idea of initiating differs greatly from a woman's. She probably has learned all the little tricks of what you think is a "sign" and is annoyed with them rather than turned on. Think about what she needs...a good portion of a woman's sexual experience is foreplay and emotions play into that. If she's annoyed with you for any reason, you are out of luck. What you do and how you relate to her out of the bedroom will directly affect how she responds to you in the bedroom. Think about her daily life...is she the only one doing housework? picking up the kids? working full time and running the household? are you lazy and only watch tv 24-7? does she have to do the dump run as well as laundry and dishes, PTA meetings, storytime, plan menus and make dinner for the week AND please you, too....if this is the case, you become just another chore on her to do list and one that ends up as the least favorite. She feels neglected and taken for granted and the last thing she wants is sexual intimacy. Nurture her mind, help out even if she doesn't ask for it--take initiative!!, and the rest will follow naturally.
2006-12-20 22:44:56 · answer #2 · answered by j05gemini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wife isn't a slave there only for the purpose of "pleasing" the man. A wife has the right to choose if and when she has sex. If sex is all the husband bases his marriage on then he shouldn't have gotten married in the first place and has doomed his marriage from the start.
2006-12-20 22:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If the relationship is one of openess and sharing, the wife should be able to say no . Sex or as I prefer, intimacy and love making should be a matter of mutual pleasure. Yes it IS a duty for both spouses but it is NOT something that someone should be forced or guilted into doing.
2006-12-20 21:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by Synnamin T 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to be more clear with your question.
If you are making sexual advances on your wife and your wife is not receptive to them,back off. Don't force yourself on her,you could end up in jail for rape.
If you are wanting sex for your own pleasure and your wife is not getting any pleasure in return,she'll be less likely to engage in sex.
If your wife is having sex with you just to please you,you need to find out what pleases her.
If she doesn't know,experiment. Get some adult movies and watch them together and if necessary-get counseling.
2006-12-20 22:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by Ralph T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't want sex then don't push her into doing it just for you. Sex should be enjoyed by both the husband and wife. Just because your in the mood doesn't mean she is, and if she says no, just respect her and take no for an answer.
2006-12-20 21:52:32 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK if i understand your sad attempt at babbling your saying that your wife's only job is to please you sexually. here take this club and i will now call you UG THE CAVE MAN. but if you care to rephrase and explain
2006-12-20 21:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah if you cant put together a sencence correctly then you have bigger problems than gettin some hunny.
2006-12-20 22:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by leaves_of_autumn171311 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
apparently not getting any is messing with your brain.
2006-12-20 21:50:49 · answer #9 · answered by Stanley S 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you said yes. now she says NO. find a friend with benifits.
2006-12-20 21:52:52 · answer #10 · answered by petasucks101 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋