My friend has never been a very logical thinker, but a lovely person nontheless. I have noticed recently that she rambles on and on. She has also has had some pretty radical behavior lately like throwing the water bottle at her sleeping husband because he drank it. Her family asked me to talk with her. I need some guidence on how to suggest professional help.
2006-12-20 13:43:31 · 10 answers · asked by Nelly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Start the conversation with," is there anything wrong?"
Sounds like your friend is suffering from some esteem problems.
By asking you will open the door. She may not realize that
her behavior is a bit abnormal for her. If she asks why you
are asking then tell her as politely and kindly as you can.
If you can manage it, offer to go with her to counseling. She
might want to talk with her Doctor and see if there may be
underlying medical problems that could explain her behavior
changes.
2006-12-20 13:50:03 · answer #1 · answered by Precious Gem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you have to realize is that you may see the problem but your friend may not see the problem. Sometimes you have to take a person out of themselves or put the shoe on the other foot in order for them to see that thet are a little bit out of controll. Don't be too aggressive or accusitory. Make sure you show your friend that you aren't trying to hurt her but that you just want her to recognize the beauty in her loved ones. Also try to avoid telling she's doing wrong and show her what she could be doing right. Encourage her to be more loving towards her husband. Tell her that "kind words turn away wrath." hope this helps.
2006-12-20 13:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by beautyzhername 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her family is asking a great deal from you. They may be desperate but that does not mean they should put this burden on your shoulders. Where's her husband in all of this? Was he the one that asked you to talk to her?
He is the one that needs to talk to her - first he should seek professional guidance on how to approach this issue. A professional will also help him to get more centered so that he can be more self-assured that he is doing the right thing.
This is a matter for your friend and her husband. Be there to support her if she turns to you - let her know that you care and that you will be there for her -- then encourage her to get professional help.
2006-12-20 13:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by LABL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is her family putting this on you? And who of us can judge when another person needs professional help? If her husband has not talked to her and her family has not talked to her then it's best you just stay out of it and let them handle their own problems.
2006-12-20 13:46:49 · answer #4 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her and find out whats going on. Chances are she is dealing with something new that is the root of her irratic behavior. If its something you don't think she could handle on her own, you can suggest she talk to a professional.
2006-12-20 13:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be gentle and let her know you love her and as her friend you have been concerned lately about her behavior and wonder if there is something bothering her that she needs to talk about--then go from there.
2006-12-20 13:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her, there is no right way to go about, just be confident, but tell her on the other side of bullet proof glass, so she doesn't throw anything at you.
2006-12-20 13:46:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intervention!
2006-12-20 13:45:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do would be to just tell her straight up. Don't make it sound to harsh though or bring it down on her to hard.
2006-12-20 13:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by Mario C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her.
2006-12-20 13:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by Good Grief 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋