If a person cheats once, can they still be trusted?

Answer 1

Yes, with caution - in most circumstances. Dr. Phill has seven questions for you and your spouse to answer regarding this issue. My husband and I found this very helpfu. Don't let your decision be influenced by the quick "hell, no" "once a cheater always a cheater" type answers. Every marriage is different. Relationships can heal after an affair. But both parties have to be willing to work for it.

http://drphil.com/articles/article/523

Answer 2

That would depend on the person. I cheated when I was engaged to my husband and I told him right away. I have never done it again. So I can see it both ways, I won't do it again but he has cheated on me before we were married and that was over 15 years ago. I just found out last month that he had a 10 month affair. He has said he was sorry and won't do it again but I don't know. It is a hard one cause some people just can't help themselves I guess but I realized I was a stupid as$ and wouldn't do it again.

Answer 3

If a married person cheats on their spouse then they have not only cheated on their spouse but also sinned against GOD. The person has really got some explaining to do to both the spouse AND to GOD. He/she had better get on their knees and pray for forgiveness from both. I would have a difficult time forgiving but an even more difficult time trusting that person again. I am sorry for you or your friend. Have a Merry Christmas!
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Answer 4

coming from both sides. yes. but you cant change or fix a 'cheater'. the whole, once a cheater always a cheater is bull hickey. if the relationship is worth fighting for, then fight for it. get involved in couples counsling. there's always an underlingin reason for the betrayl. dont give your whole heart back at once, make your partner work for the trust again. let them show you that they are working on changing/bettering themselves, to better the relationship. you can never go back to how it was before, but i believe you can build a new and stronger foundation, for a healthy relationship.

Answer 5

It depends on the situation and the person cheating. I'd have to know the circumstances. I'll tell you one thing, I'd never let him get away with it. He knows that if he cheats he's gone. End of story. I guess i'm more lenient with other peoples relationships.

Answer 6

It depends on how u feel about them if u cant go a day without checking to see what their doing 24/7 then u dont trust them and in yur eye's they cant be trusted
but everyone deserve's a second chance

Answer 7

I feel that people will change over time, given the chance. Some others will not, but what is more righteous that some criminal who has repented? Advise is easy, but if it ever happens to me, I would definitely let go. I would feel like a dumbass for allowing myself to be hurt the second time by the SAME person. Yes, they might change, but is the risk worth taking?

Answer 8

Depends on the person, my experience no they can not be. Nothing is ever the same after someone cheats. You can forgive but u cant forget.

Answer 9

WHATS THE SITUATION? there r always particulars in this case,Did they learn a lesson the 1st time? R they in love w/ thier spouse?Are they in a workable relationship w/ thier spouse& just have no morals?Do they think sex is solely intended for the wife or do they believe what she dont know wont hurt her.? ?Is thier spouse impotant?Do they believe in marriage vows?R they unhappy? People cheat for alot of reasons!!!!!

Answer 10

no, and i base this on experience, in trusting someone over and over again. just never works out, even if they remained faithful, could u get past the cheating, knowing they chose someone else over u.