Would you get jealous if your husband or wife was chatting on line to people of the opposite sex and then after chatting on line started talking on the phone for extended periods almost everyday? He says that he is only chatting because he has no one else to talk to during the day while I am at work. What should I do?
2006-12-20 13:19:07 · 27 answers · asked by rwvsm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just so you guys know the reason he is at home while I am at work is because he keeps the 2 out of the 3 children we have together. The other one is usually at school.
2006-12-20 15:48:47 · update #1
Yes, you should be upset and tell him it has to stop or you will leave. Then if he has so much free time on his hands during the day he needs to visit the sick or do something besides talking with women online. Why is he at home during the day while you work?
2006-12-20 13:22:51 · answer #1 · answered by dollynjanie 6 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Honest opinion? Well, I feel that it is all in the intention and not in the actions. But it would be an unhill task to get him to admit that he has intentions IF he did. If his intention is merely for chatting purpose, then what's the harm? Yes, it might go on to something else, but let's just face the current dilemma as of now. What you do now will affect the future outcome of your relationship. If he is REALLY innocent, I can't say yes or no, and you make a big fuss of it, wouldn't it be creating a storm in your relationship? And if he decides to "wander" off from chatting to meeting-up, would it have been seen that there is partial fault of yours too? Most people would say that if you are innocent, what is there to be afraid of. But if someone accuses you of someone you DID NOT do, wouldn't you too feel like squeezing his B****? There are a lot of "IFs" in this, take one thing as it comes, don't over react, and keep calm. Talk to him, and see where it goes from there
2006-12-20 13:41:32 · answer #2 · answered by glastnot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Just my point of view. but knock his socks off with a night just
for him. get someone to babysit like mom or sis. And fix a nice dinner and totally deck yourself out. you know what I mean give him the good old treatment you did before you had your 3 kids.
And keep it up you need this as much as he does or you wouldn't
feel the way you do. It worked for me, Have a great time, And I
think you are feeling this way because he isn't including you with
this. tell him to tell his new friend his wife said hello and send her a nice email a funny friendship card or something. Make it fun for both. You just might make a new friend, And I mean that in a nice way,
2006-12-21 21:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He IS having an emotional affair. This kind of thing only escalates if it's not nipped in the bud. It can and most likely will lead to a physical affair. Stop this behavior right now or your marriage is doomed.
Good luck
2006-12-20 14:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm been in this boat too..
well it all depends. are his conversations normal ones? is he talking to people about pets, work, his family, his car? or is he crossing the line, flirting, talking about sexual relations? is he just talking to women, or is he making friends with men as well?
where do YOU draw the line? where is YOUR comfort zone in this?
sit down and talk to him.. ask him why needs to talk to strangers, let him know your feelings.. (emotionally neglected, second fiddle, ect). maybe he's feeling neglected by you as well.
talk about him volunteering at a local animal shelter, soup kitchen, retirement home. that way he can interact with adults his own age, be out of the house, and doing something for the community.
2006-12-20 13:57:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get a job. Also, ask him if it's ok if you chat with other men on-line and on the phone. Give him a dose of his own medicine. i hope, for your sake, he's not actually meeting these women.
2006-12-20 13:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get a job, he has too much time on his hands and idle hands are the devil's workshop. I may not be jealous unless there was more reason to, and talking on the phone is more reason to. I would put a stop to it before it went further if it hasn't already.
2006-12-20 13:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by dana j 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah! its not jealousy its just crossing the line theres no such thing as a male friend it always ends up in more. so the phone calls have to go. and talking to her cause ur at work hahahaha bullSHIT. tell him to clean the house or wash clothes or do the lawn.
2006-12-20 14:03:34 · answer #8 · answered by charro0295340 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course i would be jealous
what woman wouldn't?
chatting on line is one thing
but on the phone.i don' think so
put a stop to it now
maybe he needs a job or a second job if he has that much time on his hands
2006-12-20 13:41:08 · answer #9 · answered by Bren 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he also "chatting" or talking to people of the same sex? If not then I would question the subject matter.
Jealous - no. It's a question of limits and boundaries - not jealousy.
2006-12-20 13:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by outdone 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋