This guy at work has the hots for me. He's been chasing me around for months, always stopping by my desk, waiting for me after work, he' really irritating me. I like him only as a friend and am afraid to hurt his feelings. Anyway, he bought me a bunch of expensive Xmas gifts. My friend told me to return everything, that if I keep it, it will just be ammunition for him to continue pursing me. I don't want to give the stuff back, (Coach stuff, gift cards) but seriously don't want to encourage him. Come on, how many of you will return the gifts?????
2006-12-20 13:15:37 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I say no, keep them. Unless they getmore personal like clothes, underware etc... then send them on to his wife.
2006-12-20 13:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by dana j 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hello, he is married. He should not be buying you gifts or pursuing you and you need to let him know this. You may not want to hurt his feels but how about is families feels. Stop it before it gets out of control. Return the gifts and tell him how he should have used the money on his wife and then move on with your life and find someone who you can enjoy your time with. Don't get me wrong I am not making you out to be the other woman right now. Just don't let it get to that point and keeping the gifts will lead him to that idea.
2006-12-20 13:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by cheoli 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
RETURN THEM! If you don't, you are 1) Giving him a distinct signal that you're just playing hard to get; 2) Lying to yourself, 3) Setting yourself up for a HUGE mess and 4) Not an honest person. You're into playing games here and it's not right. You say you want to be just his friend and you don't want to hurt him. BULL. If you wanted to be his friend, you'd tell him in no uncertain terms that expensive gifts from him is NOT a gesture of friendship. Be honest here, you like his attentions. Cut it out! He's MARRIED. He has no business giving those kinds of gifts to anybody but his wife. PERIOD. And a big thumbs up to psychandchem...I don't always agree with you but this time you're on the bullseye.
2006-12-20 13:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by nana 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GIVE THE GIFTS BACK!!!!! The last thing you need is to encourage a married man in any way. Tell him he should give them to HIS WIFE ....and don't worry about hurting his feelings. He isn't concerned about disrespecting his wife by pursuing you when he should be giving his attention to the woman he married. If his chasing you is irritating you, why do you even want him as a friend??? You need to stop him before it goes any further. Find a man of your own. This one is already taken.
2006-12-20 13:32:00 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hello? What kind of a game are you playing? "he's really irritating me" -- "I don't want to give the stuff back" Get real, girl!
Set this man straight TODAY! Give the stuff back and move on!
By keeping the gifts you are encouraging his behavior - you are becoming (if not already) the other woman in his marriage.
2006-12-20 13:44:14 · answer #5 · answered by LABL 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would return those gifts nothing that you get from that man is going to be free so you should give them back before he thinks you to are a couple
2006-12-20 14:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by mom of 2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Return them. Certianly by keeping them, you are encouraging him to continue what he's doing.
And honestly, you said he's been chasing you around for months. You should have set the record straight with him a long time ago. You must have done something to make him feel comfortable enough that he felt like he could get you gifts.
2006-12-20 13:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would return them. Even though it's really nice stuff, you are encouraging the unwanted attention if you keep the gifts. Morally, it's just wrong. I know you don't want to hurt him, but you need to be honest with him about your feelings towards him. If he truly likes you, he will respect your feelings, and will respect you more for your honesty.
2006-12-20 13:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by iceprincess_12_04 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Give the gifts back.
2006-12-20 14:20:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should return the gifts. He might take it that he could buy your attention. Although it may be difficult, you don't want to encourage him.
2006-12-20 13:19:59 · answer #10 · answered by zimmiesgrl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you being greedy?
You must not accept these gifts,
you will have a hard time to get rid of him, and
when you do, he will be bitter and twisted
Your lust for the gifts are not worth encouraging his.
2006-12-20 13:22:05 · answer #11 · answered by somebody cares 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋