My wife cheated on me, she told me that all she wanted was to have sex with this person, because he is very attractive but did not get involved amotionally attached to this person, when I realized she was having this "fling" she did not get back to work (this person was a co-worker) she is "proving" me that all she cares and loves it's me and our children, I am ready to get divorced and move on but this is a question that I have been thinking since I realized she was being unfaithful . Please try to honest.
2006-12-20 13:05:49 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, they can, if it's a one or two time thing, but I don't think so if the affair continues over a long period of time, at least not for most women. We're not made that way. Basically, our instinct is to give a man our hearts before we give them our bodies. That being said, in this day and time, more and more women are taking the "men do it all the time" approach. The real question here is whether or not you believe her AND what was she seeking from him that she wasn't getting at home? Was it sex - or was it intimacy? Two entirely different issues. She may be genuinely sorry that she hurt you and trying to do everything possible to make things right again. But not all the work that needs to be done is hers. You have a certain measure of responsibility too if you are going to work this out. I suggest counseling and lots and lots of talking between the two of you. Make time for each other and laugh together. Bring back whatever it was that brought the twp pf you together n the first place. I believe you want to mend things or you wouldn't be asking this question. I can't be any more honest than that. Good luck and God bless you
2006-12-20 13:30:53 · answer #1 · answered by nana 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Yes, women can have sex without becoming emotionally involved.
In your case, that doesn't matter. You don't care whether or not she got emotionally involved, you're hurt because she was unfaithful. Regardless of her reasons, she was unfaithful. It makes no difference if she connected with this guy on some level or not; she cheated. If she cared about you and your children, she wouldn't have done this. She hasn't proved anything other than she cheats.
Some marriages are able to bounce back from an affair with a lot of hard work. Only you know whether or not there's enough love between you to save your marriage or move on.
2006-12-20 13:13:18 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I am a woman and I have had sex without getting emotionally involved. I do believe she is trying to prove to you that she cares you by not going back to work where the guy she cheated on you works as well. But a person that cheats is lacking something in their relationship and could cheat again.
2006-12-20 14:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by winterstorm23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His level of involvement is 9 on a scale from 1 to 10.
2016-03-13 09:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that women can have sex without becoming emotionally attached, in fact, I have done it myself. I wasn't married, and since your wife is, there shouldn't even be a question of whether or not she was emotionally involved, the question is why did she cheat in the first place, and no, she doesn't deserve a second chance with you.
2006-12-20 13:19:32 · answer #5 · answered by Special K 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes women can have sex without getting attached. Honestly I have done it. I was married and I wasnt getting what I needed at home so I looked else where. Not saying that is whats going on. Have yall thought about doing sexual activities together such as 3 somes or whatever?
2006-12-20 13:12:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that she is trying to put one over on you. I don't see how any woman could have an affair with a man and not get involved emotionally.
Speaking from a woman's point of view, we tend to put a lot of emotional meaning to making love. It is not just a physical release as it is for men, but a true connection.
If you wife is denying the emotional part, she is surely lying.
By the way, why would you even think of staying with her when she has already admitted having an affair? Why would you want used goods that you cannot ever trust again? Once a cheater always a cheater!
2006-12-20 13:10:38 · answer #7 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes there is a such thing as not getting attached just by having sex. I know that I have done it before and I told my boyfriend and yeah he was upset, but the fact is hey if a guy sees a really hot girl, they can have sex without attachment, so why cant a woman???
2006-12-20 13:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by Erin T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definitely - the very same way that a man can, no emotional attachment, just sex. If you love her and she has been a good wife with THIS exception, give her a chance, just be very obsevant and let her "show" you that she loves you and the children. She will have to rebuild the trust in your marriage, and you will have to really make an attempt at forgiving her. Good luck.
2006-12-20 13:09:50 · answer #9 · answered by NAN G 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A woman CAN have sex without becoming emotionally involved, but the thing is, she CAN also do it again.
2006-12-20 22:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by 2dog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋