my husband have cheated on me several times in our marriage
2006-12-20 13:01:02 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's OK as long as your daughter isn't confused about your relationship. It's fine to be cordial to each other; but if you don't know if you're going to reconcile, don't act as if you are in front of her. It will only confuse and disappoint her if things don't work out.
2006-12-20 13:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay for your daughter but it might not be a good idea for you to spend time there. Are you no longer in love with him? If you are not then there should not be a problem....but if you are still in love with him you might fall back into bed with him and that would only complicate things and confuse your daughter. If it is truly over then let it be over and make a life for yourself and your daughter. One day when you have gotten your life back and divorced from your husband, then you can meet someone who will not cheat on you.
2006-12-20 21:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by LuvMyGirls 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could see your daughter spending time with him because he has rights as a father but why would you want to spend time with him. Isn't a separation for that specific reason to be apart for awhile? How are you going to spend time alone to figure out what you want to do with the relationship if you are continuing to see him? I think you should take some space alone, you owe it to yourself so if it's a better life for you and your daughter you can concentrate on these issues. Good luck to you
2006-12-20 21:05:47 · answer #3 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe there is a chance for you and your husband to work out whatever he considers his "reason" for his constant cheating, then by all means, spend time together and work on the problems. Be aware though that you're probably just setting yourself up for more heartache. If you're going over for a visit and hitting the sack with him because you're horny and he is, after all, still your husband, you're likely to catch something because if you and he are separated, you can BELIEVE he's sexing it up with other women. Good luck.
2006-12-20 21:06:59 · answer #4 · answered by nana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter should always spend time with her dad. If you arent comfortable spending time with him then let her go alone. You are separated for a reason he cheated. Is spending time together as a family going to prevent him from cheating it didnt before.
2006-12-20 21:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say yes it's okay for you two to hang out at his house. i just hope he's not using your daughter as an excuse to see you and be with you.. do you ever notice him more occupied with you then your daughter? if so then tell him your just gonna drop her off for a little while so you can get some things out of the way and your not having to drag her in and out of the car.. if he's telling you that he wants to see her then there shouldn't be any problem with that, if there is then it might just be you that he wants.. don't give in, he did you wayyyyyyyyy wrong and i think he deserves to rot in his brain over you..good luck and best wishes! hope you and your daughter have a very merry christmas and a very very happy new year! smile your beautiful!
2006-12-20 21:07:37 · answer #6 · answered by ~broken~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not recommend it for one reason. If at some point you enter into a new relationship and you do not want to complicate your new relationship, you may not want to spend any time at his house. At that point your daughter may recent your new friend. You deserve the best and this includes a start fresh in a health relationship. Best of luck.
2006-12-20 21:18:50 · answer #7 · answered by Fred B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well even though you mentioned he cheated a lot on you you don't seem to want to let go of the marriage since your separated and still hanging out with him at his place. So might i suggest you guys seek counseling and see if you can fix your marriage. good luck to you ;o)
2006-12-20 21:11:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is hard and divorce/separation is even harder. If you three can find something that works, go with it. You should try to at least remain cordial with your ex to keep the stress level to a minimum for your child. On the other hand, if you are hanging around him just to get more abuse, then I would not recommend it.
2006-12-20 21:04:23 · answer #9 · answered by Gene 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's good for you daughter to see the two of you together getting along as friends, it will help her to see that the two of you still have her best interests at heart. Just be careful to not do anything you don't want to, and make sure you are doing things for yourself. I divorced a couple of years ago, and it's hard to get your own identity back.
2006-12-20 21:08:44 · answer #10 · answered by dnsnowden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋