I've been writing a guy (I met through an online game) for a few weeks. Writing him makes me feel sooo good. I love to get the reassurance from someone other than DH about myself and my body. The best thing about this situation is how much more ready for DH I've been. I haven't felt this hot since we were first married. Email guy just gets me so revved up.
I don't think it's possible I'll ever really meet this guy. He's on the other side of the country. Though if something ever went wrong. I think he'd be the one I'd run too.
Is it wrong to continue?
2006-12-20 12:44:38 · 32 answers · asked by K W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The way I see things in my marriage is this:
If it's something that I wouldn't do when my husband is right beside me, then it's WRONG.Plain and simple.
Cheating is cheating, straight up. Even if you are just lusting after another man who you'll probably never meet, it's still WRONG and wasn't included in the things you were allowed to do when you said your wedding vows.
How would your husband feel if he knew his wife were having an online affair? Imagine the look on his face and the sound of his heart breaking.
Cut all ties with your email guy.You're a married woman.THat means your mind and your heart are BOTH supposed to belong to ONLY one man.
2006-12-20 12:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is unfair to your DH. He loves you and as part of your marriage vows you promised to love him no matter what. Marriage is about, honor, love, and of course, TRUST. He should be able to trust that you love him and are not going to be sharing those intimate feelings and thoughts with another man. How would you feel if he were doing the same to you? I honestly think you know that the answer to your question is a resounding YES, it's wrong. Adultery, biblically speaking(I don't know if you are religious or not), includes lusting after and desiring someone other than your husband. Honestly, is marriage no longer sacred to people these days? What a sad commentary on our times! I hope that you will take this answer into consideration and not just get mad and think I think you are an awful person, I know people are fallible and are by no means perfect, but it is not fair to your husband to use another man to "rev you up" before making love to the man who should be the one who "revs you up." Really look into how it would make you feel if he was doing that and if it wouldn't bother you, then maybe you should be with email guy instead! Good luck, I hope you make the right choice for you and your husband!
2006-12-20 12:56:07 · answer #2 · answered by lvminole 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if DH was looking at dirty magazines or writing a coworker on line and you found out? put yourself in the other persons shoes a decide from there. Online romances can be very danergous so I wouldn't run to fast. The grass ont he other side of the country might not be as good as you have it now, but only you can decide.
2006-12-20 13:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by cheoli 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is wrong.
It's great that sex with your husband has improved, but don't use that to justify something that isn't right. It's not just that there's clearly a sexual component to whatever is going on between you and this person you met online; the clincher is that you think he's the one you'd turn to if anything went wrong. In other words, whether he's across the country or down the block, whether you know his real name or not or would know his face if he knocked on your door, you are emotionally involved with him and invested in the "relationship."
That's simply not fair to your husband. I don't care how revved up you get for him as a result of the emails.
2006-12-20 12:53:55 · answer #4 · answered by ljb 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Any type of affair is wrong when you are married. It's not just an innocent affair, when you've taken it as far, as, if anything were to go wrong you would run to him. How do you know he is not truly married, himself. You don't. Before you continue, ask yourself how would you feel if your husband were doing the same thing, and if you feel you wouldn't care, then, maybe bring up what you are doing, to your husband, and see what he says about it, he might not care either. Someone is taking up the slack, for him and he reaps the benefits.
2006-12-20 12:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The expression "Looking for love in all the wrong places" sprang to my mind when I read this. How can looking for someone else to build your self-esteem ever be a good thing? It's not good for you and it's definitely not good for your marriage. An affair is an affair however you conduct it. You're investing emotionally in someone other than the person you're supposedly committed to. If an affair is necessary then your marriage is in trouble. Before you get involved with someone else, you should finish off the relationship you're currently in.
2006-12-20 13:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by rileysmile 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's called an emotional affair, plain and simple, wrong!
Besides, would you want your husband having this type of relationship with another women. Would it make you happy knowing he is getting revved up by another and then using your body to fulfill his need? Something to think about.
2006-12-20 13:06:41 · answer #7 · answered by Cjs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would stop. If he was close to you, would it only be an online affair? I think an online affair is just preparing you for a real affair.
Its ok to be friends with someone, but its another thing for a married woman to want more.
2006-12-20 13:06:09 · answer #8 · answered by confused angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it may seem harmless on your marriage for now, but in the long run, you will end up unsatisfied with your partner because you've already established a new "fantasy/scenario" in your mind with this guy on the net. it may not be what you call an affair, but its gonna hurt your marriage so bad. so keep it low and always reassure yourself that no one could take the place of your man, ever.
2006-12-20 12:52:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's wrong to continue. They say that affairs always start in the mind. Be careful, otherwise you could end up in some hot water.
2006-12-20 12:52:48 · answer #10 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋