why do i feel alone and i am married?

Question

i am married and feel alone should i give up when i try to talk to my wife she says i am crazy someone please help

Answer 1

Sorry to say' She ain't gettin it. Most likely she will not until it's to late and you have found someone that listens.

Answer 2

I believe you are probably depressed. Now this can be a chicken or egg thing. Which came first, the depression because you felt alone or you felt alone because you were depressed. Please try to get your wife to go to counseling with you. If she won't, then go by yourself. Feeling alone within a marriage means that the communication has gone haywire. You don't feel "connected" and you don't feel like you "matter". You are NOT crazy. It does sound like your wife is not being very supportive. But if you've been depressed for a long time, she may have gotten tired of it and just considers it a pain in the butt or thinks you should just "get over it". You won't. It will only get worse and you will feel more and more isolated if you don't get some help and come to some kind of middle ground meeting place with your wife. If she is just cold hearted and doesn't care what you're going through, then divorce may be the answer, but don't give up yet. Try to find some inner peace for yourself (and I'm NOT suggesting an affair - that would only make things worse). Good luck.

Answer 3

It sounds like the communication has fell off the side of the road in this marriage. Don't give up if you truly love your wife. What is something that you both done when you first met? Try doing that again and surprise her.

Things like this can open the communication link back up by bringing up memories that you both share and are fond of.
This is odd though most times it's the woman who says this sort of thing. You see women have the need for being soothed emotionally and men vice versa physically.

If all else fail hun I suggest that you make yourself some friends and enjoy life. There are so many things that you can be doing aside from sitting at home feeling alone and your married. See if she would like to join you if not then go out play yourself a few holes of golf or whatever sport you like or hobby.

But please don't resort to cheating, as this is the number one reason men/women cheat.. they arent getting what they need at home.

If this continues for more than 3 months talk to her again if she is still in the frame of mind "your crazy" just let her know that this isn't going to work and tell her why before you decide to tread other areas to fill that gap of being lonely.

Good Luck to you dear..hang in there!

Answer 4

I've been married for 4 1/2 years now. With a 4 year old and 2 year old. We have been going to marriage counseling for 2 months now. Go to marriage counseling. As previously said, he may not know how you feel. My husband never knew how lonely I felt. It's not been a 360 turn around but a 180. I'm actually giving it a few more months to decide if it's for keeps or I should just move on. Try the counseling. Doesn't work for everyone. I'm also here to talk if needed. My hubby constantly on go, I'm a homebody. It's rough. Are you still in love with him or are you not sure anymore?

Answer 5

Aw your not crazy your human. ;o) You can have someone in your life and feel alone. Usually because you have stopped communication with each other. Doing all those little things that attracted you to each other. Maybe you can try planing on some outings with her like places you used to go and might not do much anymore. Try to talk more to each other. And then of course there's talking with a counselor. The thing is you wife doesn't seem to feel there's a problem but obviously there is for you to feel this way. good luck to you ;o)

Answer 6

From being single, what were you looking for when you decided to get into a relationship? Companionship? love? anything else? Well, from there, you decided to get marrried, what were you looking for in a marriage life? Something new besides the ones given for when you wanted a gf. Sometimes, one does get married, but without a purpose, just based on the word LOVE. But there is more to just love that will make a marriage work. U ask the question, why do I feel lonely? The same question goes back to you, WHY do you feel lonely? What could be done to eradicate this? In life, there are a few aspects to be taken of, career, finance, friends, family, own personal time. Are you lacking in other aspects that make you feel lonely, and not because of marriage?

Answer 7

It's obvious that there's something missing. It seems as though when people are married for awhile, if no conscious effort is made to keep a spark there, it will feel like the two of you are more like roommates. You need intimacy. You need to feel heard. That's why you feel lonesome. You really need to get your wife's attention. Try going out on a date night and talk about this.

Answer 8

I felt like this for months before i got a divorce. Not that i'm telling you to get one. But now I've been on my own with my kid for about 3 years. And it's only now that i realized how sad i was. I felt more alone with my ex than i do now. It take's 2 to make things work. Obviously she's not trying. Life is way to short to feel lonely. Do what needs to be done to make yourself happy!!!

Answer 9

you cant give up because you are alone..... go out to the world meet some buddies..... just because she thinks ur crazy doesnt mean u are maybe she is not the right person to talk to find someone else to talk to and if things dont get better then u need to either take it to dr phil or jerry she could be hiding something u neever no but u have to have trust and...yea

Answer 10

You feel alone because those emotional needs that need to be met aren't being met. A spouse is supposed to supply emotional, physical, and intellectual needs. As well as financial needs, when any of these areas of needs aren't being met, there is a void, one that often leads to other things outside of marriage. Before you resort to other things, try to fix the problem.

Answer 11

I'm married but I feel like a parent. I feel like an unmarried parent living with a lover in the house. Married, me? I don't even considered myself married. Just read my profile.