Okay well I starting dating a kid named todd when i was 7 years old. and now i am fourteen and seven years later we are still together. when we were 12 years old he asked me if i wanted to be together with him forever.and ohcourse i said yes , so he said well the only way we can garentee us being together forever is if we have a kid. so we have been trying to have a kid since we were 12 (yes we have had sex dumb people) and now i havn't got my period for over two months and i have thrown up alot and have morning sickness latly. i took 2 pregnency tests one was neitive and the other was positive. people what should i do , im kind of scared now, should i tell my boyfriend/parents or what =|
2006-12-20 12:32:09 · 36 answers · asked by Molly H 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
OMG! ur so stupid! u should care about education and ur goals not caring babies! ur too young to get pregnant..... it sounds to me that u are pregnant.......... u know ur not ready to have a kid and u haven't finished school.... homegurl! ur not ready to be a mother.... dont u have health class?
2006-12-20 15:09:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
Wow. I would automatically tell you to talk to yur parents, but if they've been letting you "date" since you were seven, it doesn't sound like they have been all that involved in your life.
Talk to your boyfriend first.
Secondly, do you have any other adults you trust? An aunt? Or a teacher at school? You obviously need to talk to an adult about this.
14 years old and pregnant is going to be a lot of work. I was 23 when I had my first, 25 with my 2nd and 30 with my third and I struggle all the time at it. If you have this baby, you will need a really good support system, so you need to seek that out.
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2006-12-20 12:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone! I am so sorry you have to go through with this at such a young age! Whatever you do , don't get an abortion! That could seriously mess you up at such a young age. Go to a therapist if you start feeling overwhelmed. Hun, that was so not a smart choice. If yo have a baby, you can never go to college. If you have this baby now, when your 20 it will be six. You can't marry your bf yet so you did this for nothing. Also, take some more tests. Just to make sure. God bless honey. And be careful.
2006-12-21 04:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by XxXTaRaXxX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I know you're scared right now, but I think the best way to do right now is first tell your bf with what is happening. He's the only one who knows about this and you both did this so it's both your responsibility. It's very hard to handle this situation on your own so first talk to him.
Then, take another test, but with all the symptoms that you have said, it seems that you are pregnant. Having missed your period for two months is a big deal, but it may still be caused by stress, so i think the best way to find out is to go to the doctor.
Talk to your parents... I know it's hard, but it's the only way. First they'll be dissapointed but they will help you and will not abandon you just because of this.
Lastly, I'm just wondering why you guys tried to have a kid but now you are scared. This is a lesson to both of you. You have to figure things out first and be sure to be ready before rushing into things.
2006-12-20 16:08:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are crazy for trying to get pregnant at such a young age. You had your whole life ahead of you to be with Todd and to have a child together. You haven't finished school yet, hell, you've barely started high school at age 14, unless you are still in jr. high. Therefore, you won't be able to find a stable job and support this baby that you will have. Your body isn't ready to bare child labor yet; physically or mentally. I hope this is just a false alarm for you and God is just trying to help you understand what a mistake getting pregnant so early would be. If it turns out that way, my best advice would be to finish high school, go to college, get a job, marry Todd, THEN have a child together. If you do really turn out pregnant, then i just hope you have a very supportive family.
2006-12-22 05:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefuly you understand now that because you two have a child together DOESN'T mean you two will be together forever.
My mom had me and she isn't with my biological dad. My mom had my two other siblings with their dad and they are not together.
If that was true, divorce rate would not be over 50%, with over 40% of those divorces are sharing children together.
Please understand, if you two can not legally live together, work and provide for eachother and yourself with out assistance from parents or government, then you two should be waiting instead of trying to do adult things.
Not fair for your parents to provide for this child that you might be carrying because you and this boy is too young to get a full time job and provide for this child at the same time, plus school.
Your next step is to see a doctor and discuss this with the parents.
Afterwords, come to term that if you two were meant to be and want to be with eachother, you two will wait a few more years til out of high school, have wonderful paying job, moved on your own to your own place and then discuss marriage and children.
Future children deserve a good quality life of being financial and emotional/mental and educational parent home life.
2006-12-20 13:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We can tell that you're pregnant because one of the HCG tests came back positive. Now you would be stuck between a wall and Titanium! (Not even a nery hard place). Telling your parents is a must , and besides they would find out eventually. Telling your boyfriend is also necessary. But one thing he lied about...you don't have to obtain a child to stay together forever. My guess is that he just wnated to have sex. We are not being harsh, but you fell right into his trap. We can only assume that peer pressure got the better of him, so he decided to tell you this to get what he wants.
Now for the parents, be prepared for a lot of pressure! As we say in Trinidad, "Strain, Boy!". You must tell both yours and his parents about it. Make sure the HCG test is true (i.e you're pregnant) before doing so or else you can land yourself in premature trouble.
Ask your boyfriend this question..."Do you really love me? Did you really mean the things you said? Or did you lie to me for sex?"
If he has a problem to answer, then it was just for sex. If he gets aggressive, it was for sex. If he wants to end the relationship, then it was definitely for sex! As a matter of fact, he wasn't supposed to to think about having a kid at this point, because he is not ready. Neither are you.
My advice here is to tell your parent and boyfriend. In this situation, only them and God can help.
You have an excellent question my friend. I wish you luck on your further endeavours...
2006-12-20 13:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by Shadow 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
go to a dr and make sure that you are pregant than tell your bf and then your parents. There are much better ways to be together than having a baby. You are way too young to even be thinking about this. Your body is not ready to have a baby yet. It could really hurt your development. If you are not pregnant get some help this is not a good thing for a 14 yr old to be thinking about.
2006-12-20 12:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by mktk401 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell your parents. If you are not sure about
being pregnant they could take you to the doctor so you can know for sure. At the same time if it is just a scare you might be able to learn from this. Babies should not be having babies. I honsestly think that you should stop having sex for a while. Talk to your byfriend and see where you two should go from there. you should think about what you are going to do you can't get a job and if he is 14 too nethier can he. what about school i'm guessing you are in the 8th or 9th you can't quit or you'll end up flipping burgers for a living and for pay check to pay check is not nice. you will never have fun kiss your social life good bye no more football games no more anything being a teen momma is no picnic. you shold never have let that boy tell you what to do wit your life you will have to take care of that baby he can leave you can't think about what you are going to do. and e-mail one day to update me on your pregnancy holla at ya gurl!!!
2006-12-20 12:54:20 · answer #9 · answered by Ja'kaia mommi3 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him frist, then gt his parents together and your parents, and tell them all together, you cant say you scared if you have been trying for the past 2 years. The boy pressurised you in to doing something, what if he runs away? have you thought of your future? schooling, working? how you going to support the child? First make sure you are 100% you are pregnant. Im sure your parents will be supportive, but be careful because you are not 16 yet, if the authorities found out, it culd be statutory rape, and your boyfriend could be locked up. Be brave and strong for you and your child, I suggest you go to the doctor
2006-12-20 18:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by Minxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell yr bf and your parents
yr bf needs to know and so do your parents
your parents will be able to help you the most
do you realize that having a kid doesnt mean youll stay together hello look at all of these adults with children getting divorces
all you are doing by having a kid so young is getting yourself and him a lot of stress no offense but you are fairly stupid for believing him about staying together just because you have a baby and for doing it so young
2006-12-21 01:44:05 · answer #11 · answered by Meredith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋