my husband was gone for a little over a year,in boot camp.he finally came home last week.but i feel,like if i have a stranger with me.even when making love,i felt,so unconfortable.him being home,im happy,but at the same time,its bugging me.i never cheated,or even thought about it.i love him.but,dont know whats that all about.is it because i am too independent?i got a job,took care of the children,and everything else,by my self.i have been trying to figur this out,but cant.maybe you guys can help.
2006-12-20 12:30:21 · 4 answers · asked by super girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most people come out of military boot camp changed, and mostly for the better. Have you noticed any positive changes in him?
Plus, you said it's only been a week since he's been home. I myself came home to my wife after a year overseas, and I'd changed considerably; we both had. It took us a lot of time and patience, but eventually we got used to each other's prescence in our lives again, and everything is fine now.
2006-12-20 12:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a very common dilema for military wives. It will take having him back in your life for a while to readjust to thinking like part of a couple instead of as a person who has to make all the decisions on your own. Talk to him about how you're feeling. If need be, talk to the base chaplain. Talk to other military wives. Don't give up and don't feel like you're WIERD. You're having a perfectly normal reaction to a perfectly UN-normal situation. Pray together as well. Find ways to reconnect as a couple. Don't turn a cold shoulder to him. You closed off your heart because the one you gave it to was gone through neither one's fault. You had to protect yourself and remain a faithful wife without the daily warmth of your husband. Now he is back and you have to warm the hinges and reopen the door. God bless you, hon for being true to him while he was gone. You're a good woman.
2006-12-20 22:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by nana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being away from your mate and having to do things for yourself for a long period of time will have you feeling like you dont need him anymore. its just that you got use to doing it all but hes back so give it time and see how things turn around for u be patient im sure he feels the tension your giving off
2006-12-20 20:38:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A year is a long time to be separated. It will take some time for adjustment...
2006-12-20 20:39:31 · answer #4 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋