If you know the reasons behind the entry of other women in married man’s life, which path should the man take, stay back because of the child, or proceed with divorce at the risk of losing the child to provide the status to the other women she deserves. If you have been or are aware of such a case and the long term implications, pl let me know.
2006-12-20 11:57:37 · 11 answers · asked by regatta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sure whatever. No I'm joking. Stay for the child. My husband did, but I wish he didn't. But he did because he's a good dad and our son is his everything. I don't believe we are married. I just beleive we are parents, unmarried parents living in the same house. But we both know that thats not the way it's suppose to be. Especially when we have been married for over 6 years.
2006-12-20 12:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't use the kids 4 an excuse.R u staying cuz its hard being alone away from them or are u afraid to leave her?When 2 ppl, fight in a marraige they r teaching thier children how not to b in marriage or relationship.YOU can have alot of visitation w/ your kids after the divorce & probably b more involved in thier lives than before cuz its just your time. Better yet take custody.however; .I DO BELIEVE most small children need thier mom more than thier dad but its very important 4 dad to be in kids lives.a marriage is not involving anyone except the 2 people who took the vows. Lets seperate that.A family involves kids.If there is not quality love between the parents then counseling cannot help them.{ teach them 2 b civil }then move on. U R KEEPING YOUR OWN LIFE FROM TRUE HAPPINESS ALONG WITH STRESSING OUT YOUR KIDS. DONT U THINK THEY THINK ABOUT THE FIGHTS WHEN THEY LAY QUIETLY IN THIER BEDS . YOU CAN RAISE THEM & B VERY MUCH A ACTIVE PART OF THIER LIVES, with custody or without custody.As far as status goes,where did u get the idea marraige gives a woman status HA.HA.Dont think she wont find someone else! U will too & maybe youll b happy 4 a change; then u can show your kids how to love & be loved.If you r afraid to leave your wife then you must still think it will work...
2006-12-20 13:18:31 · answer #2 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did know a bloke who really was not wanting to be the mother of his child, but said that he could not bear the thoughht of not seeing his child every day. I knew another bloke who had seen his wife breakdown due to post natal depression and leave him (taking the kids). He paid £40,000 in court costs and lawyer/ solicitor fees, and STILL didn't get the kids (and I know I only know his side, but he was the nicest bloke and would have taken must better care of the kids). I think that good (and I only care about the rights of the good ones) fathers do have this discrimination to battle, and the fact that they have to do this is certainly not what my idea of feminism is - women cannot keep the extra power afforded by birthing children if we want everything else to be evened up. Marge Piercy's Woman on the Edge of Time has a very interesting analysis of this and is well worth a read.
2016-03-29 02:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a marriage when it's had all it can take it's best that no one use the excuse"oh I'm staying for the child" Doing this can teach and send wrong messages to that child (ren) It's best that the parents part ways before it's not even possible to be friends.
Of course the child(ren) will be upset about this, but as they grow into adults they will appreciate the fact that their parents respected them enough not to raise them in a home filled with parents fussing all times of the day and night.
Fact is that we as adults don't give children enough credit and what I mean by that is .. Children know more than we give them credit for and they are more mature than you think.
The system is fair when it comes to these situations as long as both parents are civil and not a mad wreck when apprearing in court or before coming to court things should be fine and equal.
Parents shoud never ever use the saying "I'm staying for the children" That's hurting your children or child and they deserve more than that. They can still have both mom and day but in a happier , healthy enviroment.
Best of luck everything will be just fine.. you'll see.
2006-12-20 12:21:39 · answer #4 · answered by ssgtmommy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the marriage is bad and plaenty of fighting, needs to end or go seek help together if there is love still not passion. If there is hate, imagine what the child is going through hearing seeing it. It hurts them, just as much as a divorce, but atleast ina divorce child has a two homes to run to get away from the other. Fight for your child in court let them know you care and you are apart of its life. Don't give up without a fight......... Men have rights like the mother.
2006-12-20 12:04:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone should stay in a relationship or dead marriage for a childs sake because you are just teaching the child to grow up and live the same kind of miserable life. the court system will protect your rights as long as you provide financial support.
2006-12-20 12:04:29 · answer #6 · answered by kd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
staying for the sake of a child is not doing the child any favor you will only transfer the the negativity to the child sooner or later. But then you teach your children that it is OK to settle for second best.
2006-12-20 12:15:28 · answer #7 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Provide the status the other woman deserves? Don't you think the children deserve the best? He is married. Let him provide for his family he committed to.
2006-12-20 12:07:15 · answer #8 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the heck kind of a mixed up question is this anyway?????
2006-12-20 11:59:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the grass almost is never greener on thie other side.
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2006-12-20 12:05:56 · answer #10 · answered by bradystjames 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋