Hes cheated and lied to me so much...i really don't know what to think or what to believe from him..why is he still telling me that he loves me i really do not think that he does he wouldn't of cheated on me and wouldn't lie to me so freaking much if he loved me right?...so why do YOU think hes saying it is it still possible that he does????
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2006-12-20 11:48:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hes older than I am and he has asked me to marry him but yet hes going to do that bull..i dont get it?
2006-12-20 11:56:08 · update #1
It IS possible that he loves you, even though he cheated on you. He may love you, but because he's probably young and immature, he can't control his impulses, so he cheats and lies. He needs to grow up. When that happens, he'll realize you don't do anything to risk true love.
2006-12-20 11:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. I have been in the exact boat as you. Really i have. Before I got married(im not old so dont worry! :) Only in my early 20s. I dated this guy named justin. On my birthday i rented a room for him and i to share together. Hey i thought we ere in love! Only to arive at the my hotel room to find him shacked up with another girl. So, of course he told me he loved me. I thought the same thing as you. HOW? It's an easy answer. He's using you. HE may think he has love for you. BUT he does not love you. Love is not cheating and is not lying.He certaintly is not showing you he loves you or cares for. you knwo that. And no i do not think he still does. The reason he is saying that sweetie. Is because it gets him what he wants. Ask yourself this. How many other girls is he saying that to? You are much stronger than him. Emotionally. He needs you to only to fulfill his selfishness. Thats it. I do believe you love him. Right now at least. and you cant believe anything that he says. you are right on the ball. Now just kick him to the gutter. He's worthless. It's going to be hard as hell. But in the long run. you will be thankful. You will have more money, time and energy. You wont be so angry at others around you. When the real person your angry at is him. Right? Please take my advice. this guy is dangerous to you. He's bringing you down. I'm sure your intellegent. Get ahead while you can. Change your phone number. Forget him. Throw away his number. If you get lonely. Call a friend who will support you. It may take some time. But i wish you all the luck.
2006-12-20 12:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's realized what he lost..
however thaTS not the most realistic case.
could there be something that you have that he misses?
i had this exact problem once.
it turned out that i would buy good gifts.
so this pertyicular guy would always come backa nd say he loved me around a special time. [ex: christmas, his birthday, ect..]
i ended up spending over 350$ on this guy...and for me, i dont have a lot of money.
he was so sweet i couldtn help myself.
but he lied and cheated all the time.
it was horrible.
so maybe this guy just wants something.
maybe physical or inanimate.
or possibly he could be going through a "lovers slump"
and he cant find any girl because theyve realized how bad he is.
and maybe he thinks he can always have you.
it's possible that hes one of those people who feels like they have to have a lover all the time.
..but maybe not.
well anyways,
good luck.
i hope everything turns out alright.
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2006-12-20 11:56:36 · answer #3 · answered by Sterlinggg. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look I had the same experience a couple of years ago...just exactly whats happening to you, but everyday I will sit and meditate until i came to a conclusion. If he loved you sweetie, he wouldnt have eyes for nobody but you. He would worship you and he would never ever put in risk the relationship for a one night stand or to just make out with another girl. He would be very careful of not hurting you in any way..thats love...Maybe he is also confused and thinks that he loves you, but you make him see that..i dont know how long you guys have been going out, but many times you confuse love with the fact that you guys are so used to each other that its hard to change things. Please dont get involved in a relationship like this, its very painful..Move on!! there are many guys out there that have real Values and know how to respect a woman, i found mine. Iike i mentioned before, I got involved in a painful relationship with this stupid guy for 2 years and it was terrible, once they disrespect you by cheating, its over!!!!!(its his loss though, you sound like a good girl, just remember that guys are nothing without a gir's emotions) They need our emotions to feel alive, even though some of them dont recognize it. Good luck, hun. Merry christmas!!
2006-12-20 12:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by Wendy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really believe that some people don't know the meaning of love. It sounds like the only reason he's saying it is because he wants to keep you around because he's not entirely sure what he wants either. You deserve better than to be treated like **** and cheated on, you need to move on and find someone that will make you happy and truly love you for who you are. I hope you find him, good luck.
2006-12-20 11:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you know that he cheated on you so he's trying to get you not to break up with him. Move on you know he doesn't love you, the trust is gone, there's nothing holding you back from leaving the guy.
2006-12-20 11:57:40 · answer #6 · answered by Die S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's probably saying that 'cause he wants you to put up with him so more...
Or he really does, but can't help but being a prick...
I know somebody like that...
Move on would be the best advice you could take.
2006-12-20 11:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by aloe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no gurl move on and tell him to get a life. if he loved u he wouldnt have cheated on in the first place. his stupid and........ OMG i just feel like cursing but yeah just tell him to get a life and u move on to a guy that will love u and will not betray u like that.
2006-12-20 12:08:22 · answer #8 · answered by h2o :] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no absolutely not. You must be scum if you're settling for scum in a relationship. make yourself into someone that a great guy is attracted to.
2006-12-20 11:51:04 · answer #9 · answered by it's me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants a peice of ****. Why else.
2006-12-20 12:33:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋