If two people find love at the tender ages of 15 and 17, can that same love lead to a successful marriage?

Question

I am now 17 years old, and i fell in love with a wonderful person at the ripe age of 15. It has been only two years since, and in about 5 months i will be preparing to leave for college. I know at this age life is supposed to be a growing period filled with new, and empowering experiences. Independence, maturity, and decisions that will effect my future forever are going to be knocking at my door step. However there is no one I'd rather spend my life with. I believe our love can last forever. Marriage is a giant decision. Am I too young to be able to experience, enjoy, and succeed in the adventurous world of marriage?

Answer 1

My parents did. They're totally happy and in love to this day. 15 and 16.

Answer 2

Marriage is definitely an adventure, full of ups and downs. it's also a huge step to take, especially at a young age. Go to school, experience life. You don't have to break up with him, you can still be together throughout college. You will learn so many wonderful things there. don't let it go to waste. If you want your relationship to work, you'll have to do the work to make it last. If something happens to show you that something else is of more importance and you have to end it, that's ok too.

Really, the decision does NOT have to be made today, this week, or before you go away to school. All that you should do is wait until you are really ready. graduate, get a job, then look at marriage. This is not something you have to worry about now. Plus, the fact that you are even asking tells me your aren't ready... this is something that you will just know.

Answer 3

My best friend met her future husband at 15 (he was a couple years older). After she finished high school, she attended college, and then transferred to the same college he was at. Five years after her college graduation, they got married, and just had a baby last year. They have a strong and healthy relationship.

So yes, your young love can DEFINITELY lead to marriage. However, that does NOT mean you should get married now, or the second you turn 18. You should both go and explore what the world has to offer. You will both change a great deal over the next five years, just as you have changed a great deal of the PAST five years. This is a great opportunity to see if you can learn to change together, and see how you face short-term separations and difficulties. Consider the next few years as a training ground for your marriage.

You sound very mature, so continue to give this matter a great deal of thought. Perhaps you both could exchange promise rings, and seek pre-marital counseling to discover what areas you are strong in and what areas will present difficulties for you.
good luck and congratulations!

Answer 4

Its definitely not over rated, and my grandparents were not ******* when they where 12 , when you decide you want to get married that is based on how you are raised (ex: arranged marriages). Realistically there is a limit i think it should be based off of the level of maturity, can you imagine marrying someone at age 15? Alot of those people wind up the complete opposite of "happy" which is what its all about. Christin "Yes they can. As you get old, then older, then very old you will realize, it's your body that changes not your mind. Ask yourself this question in sixty years time." Really? so you are saying from the time you were 9 till now your mind state hasent changed? For christ sake your brain doesnt stop growing until your mid late 20's. Im sorry that was just a very ignorant statement.

Answer 5

Honey, maturity comes with age. Although you have a very good head on your shoulders and you seem intelligent, a teenager doesn't have the mental capacity to make such life long descisions at this point in your life. You have your whole life in ahead of you and in 5 years your desires may change. You can be together for years before getting married and then if you still know that hes the one then by all means. I think it could work out and you could be together forever, but I wouldnt rush into marriage if I were you. Go out and experience life while you can, you only have one chance to do it right. Good luck in all you do and Happy Holidays

Answer 6

Yes, I think that if two people find love at a tender young age it can lead to a successful marriage. I don't think you should get married now though. Experience other people and enjoy your life. When you get married you will be tied down forever! If it's really love then it will stand the test of time. Good luck!

Answer 7

i married really young and over the past 11 years we've been through some really hard stuff due to the changes "we" (and everyone goes through) we've separated and then united again and its been a hard rough road. Now we are older we seem to be getting along great, but i would always recommend that you do the things you need to do before you settle down, i have so many things i didn't do or see, and now I'll have to wait until we pay off all our commitments, raise the kids etc before i can do them....marriage is forever, so if you're both truly in love, it will stand the test of time, remain bf and gf and enjoy life before considering marriage and all the commitments it involves.

Answer 8

Maybe, but the odds are against it.

It's a simple fact that your brain doesn't even finish physically developing until about age 23 for men, about age 21 for women....and even then, most people younger than 25 do not really have a solid grasp of "who they are".
The last part of the brain to fully form is the part that manages "impulse control".
Statistically, the older you are when you marry, the better the chances of it lasting.
This doesn't mean you are not the exception...but waiting would be best. You will both change over the next few years, so predicting how you will get along is virtually impossible to do.

Answer 9

If you're contemplating marriage right now, I would suggest against it. If you honestly think you can last, then marriage isn't necessary right now. If it's really true love, then you guys can wait until after you graduate.

My uncle and aunt met when they were in third grade. They married and are still happily married today. They only broke up once during high school.

My mom and dad met when they were in the seventh and eighth grade. They are still happily married after almost 25 years of marriage.

Going without marriage won't hamper your being together if it was really meant to be. If anything, it might challenge your chances of staying together, simply because when you get frustrated with each other, you'll feel anchored down and not able to breathe.

Wish you the best!

ps- also make sure that this isn't puppy love, 'cause that type of love can sure seem real.

Answer 10

My wife was 17 and I was just 16 when I asked her to the junior prom. I was kind of pushed into it with friends. They knew I liked her from a distance and, they also knew she liked me from a distance. I finally had the neve to ask her, that was in 1966, It's been about 48 years now, two tours in 'Nam, five kids and fifteen grand kids, three greats.
No: It wasn't all downhill, there were a lot of bumpy spots. We even seperated once, for a few months. She was around the corner a few times. We always found our way back though, that was the way it was, we're happy together and, will be together for life I know that know and that's what counts. All the kids look at us and use us as a discription for marraige. 48 years ago this Jan.

Answer 11

I don't want to discourage you but it's really not likely that the marriage would last. Most 15 and 17 year olds don't really even know what love is and definitely don't take marriage seriously enough, that's why so many end in divorce. But enough of the negativity, I got married at 17 and we're still happy and still devoted to our marriage. My point is that yeah it can work but the odds are against you.