My husband says he doesn't feel appreciated. I asked what I do to not make him feel appreciated and he said that it's not something that I do what what I don't do. So what can I do to make him feel appreciated?
2006-12-20 11:28:21 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It seems to me like a lot of the answerers are missing the point. Your husband complained about not being appreciated. He didn't complain that your sex life wasn't working for him. Focus on what he asked for. How often do you say a simple "thank you" when he does some little thing for you like open a door? Use little comments to him like "Honey, you're the best". You don't have to say best WHAT...he's just the best. Or "You know, I really enjoy your company". Pay attention when he talks to you. Flirt with him. Tell him nice things in front of his friends (not goopy or too personal stuff - that would just embarrass him). When he makes a good point in a conversation, say something like "I hope our kids grow up to be as smart as you". There's not one thing wrong with flattering him. It's healthy. The sexy stuff comes into play, sure, but I don't think that's where he's feeling neglected. Men need and want to be respected and praised. if he builds something for you or makes a nice flowerbed in the yard or cooks something, make a point of telling a friend about it in front of him. Never put him down or poke fun at him in front of other people. If he says something stupid, it's not necessary to point it out to him, is it? Use the same rule of thumb in how you treat him as you would in the way you want him to treat you - with respect, love, and admiration for him. After all, you must have thought he was pretty terrific or you wouldn't have married him.
2006-12-20 12:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by nana 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Break out of your normal routine to little things to surprise him that he is interested in..dress like a cheerleader during half-time, make a special meal, get more creative and adventurous in the bedroom, take a weekend trip where it's just the two of you, write a short poem and put it in a card, find his favorite childhood toy on ebay and give it to him as a present, find out who his favorite band was in the 80's and find the CD..he basically means in your very busy day separate him from whatever you're doing and do something small to show how much you love rather than assume he already knows. Men need reinforcement.
2006-12-20 19:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
try showing him respect. That is what men really want. He probably doesn't know how to tell you. Not because he's dumb, he just communicates differently from you. Tell him how much you need him. Tell him when he dose something you like. Or just say thank you. When my husband seems over worked at his job I tell him how thank you for working so hard to support us. be his cheerleader.
2006-12-21 01:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by annetm2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is my answer. And its very simple: Treat your husband like he's your boyfriend. Nothing is going to kill a relationship faster than the so called "rules" of marriage. Spend a week acting like teenagers and he will come around.
2006-12-20 19:46:58 · answer #4 · answered by the big sexy 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Mick is pretty funny.
I would probably suggest paying more attention to him by acknowledging his comments and praising him. Imagine if he died yesterday. What would you do or say to him if you had the chance to go back in time.
Many people take others for granted and they sometimes feel unappreciative. I would think if you brag to your girlfriend more often so that he hears you, he'll feel more appreciative about the things he does for you.
2006-12-20 19:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by The Doctor 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well ask him what you don't do and go from there. If it's in the bedroom get a sexy nightue wait for him when he gets home and pouce on him in the couch. Or make dinner and let him have you as dessert. But first you need to find out what you do do for him. And also he needs to realize he needs to do for you want you want or need too.
2006-12-20 20:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
My husband says to tell you men need to know that they are good providers, that they are good lovers, that they are good friends, and that they are good men.
But men are different.What says appreciation to one man may not say so to another.
My guess is your husband has something specific in mind. You could try one thing after another until he yells "bingo!" or you could be courageous and just ask him
2006-12-20 19:38:27 · answer #7 · answered by outdone 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
been there! wat i do every now and then is bet him to the punch, kiss him 1st and ask him how was is day. then every few min. pass by him and give him a hug or smack on the butt. if his is the romantic type tell him YOUR going to take a bath fix it up {candles,bubbles} then run by him naked pretending you forgot something kiss him right befor you go back in the bathroom and ask him to join you. you could just talk in the tub if you like but it should make him feel like a king and not like your been thinking about wat to do all day long.
2006-12-20 19:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by e.jlo909 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just pay more attention to him and make him feel like his wanted around and that you are there for him and of course more sex i dont know if you guys have a problem with that.
2006-12-20 19:39:08 · answer #9 · answered by peter1 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Compliment him on his decision making and accomplishments.
Constantly tell him how good looking and sexy he is. Give him
cuddly hugs and tell him you love him every day. Show that you
are proud of him.
2006-12-20 19:35:34 · answer #10 · answered by Hawk_er 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋