2 weeks ago I caught my 14 year old son wearing his sister's leotard and tights. I immeadiately put him over my knee and spanked him right there. I told him to change and never wear them again. Yesterday when I came home from work I caught him wearing the same leotard and tights and her high heel boots. I took off my belt and put him over my knee for an even harder spanking. When I finished spanking him I told him that I never wanted to see him wearing those again. Today when I got home I caught him wearing a different leotard and tights with boots and he was masturbating on his sister's bed. I didn't spank him this time and he says he just likes the way it feels when he wears them. I just don't know what to do now!
How do I fix this?
2006-12-20 11:25:27 · 9 answers · asked by Mike Smith 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The concensus seemed to be that I should buy him his own leotard and tights. I talked to him about it and he says that he wants some boots like his sister's high heel boots. I'm not sure about that? I guess if I'm going to get him his own leotard and tights he should have his own high heel boots to wear with them. Most of you also said that I should stop spanking him for this behavior so I will refrain from that and see how this might work out.
2006-12-21 09:55:52 · update #1
I don't think there is anything to fix! If he wants to wear a leotard and tights then buy him his own. He will lose interest eventually and probably quit wearing them. I had a brother that used to wear my tights once in a while when he was 15. They just want to try anything that makes them feel good at that age. It's probably just an experiment. I also agree that spanking him while he's wearing a leotard and tights is probably encouraging this behavior and causing some confusing sexual feelings.
2006-12-20 12:19:01 · answer #1 · answered by Ronni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you should just buy him his own leotard and tights. He's probably just experimenting with things that feel good. I would also stop spanking him. By showing him this type of attention when he wears her leotard and tights you might be encouraging him. He might be getting some confusing satisfaction from being spanked in these outfits. I say you let him wear his own leotard and tights around your house and the novelty will wear off and he will stop. He also should not be masturbating in his sister's room. That is what his room is for, or the bathroom.
2006-12-20 12:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by Steve 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT THE FUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK ARE YOU DOING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He's just a normal boy who is wearing the clothes he likes!!!!!!!! It's like saying if you have a certain dress you like to wear then it's the same for him!!!!!!!!! They only say it's girls clothes because some ******* **** said they were because all of these items used to be men's wear but women liked them more and wore them more so they were just called women's clothing. He is just a normal boy expressing that little peice of femininity that every guy has in them. SO STOP ******* BEATING THE **** OUT OF HIM WITH YOU'RE BELT YOU TOTAL RETARD!!!!!!!!!!
2015-01-22 09:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by Adam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably a phase. Teenage boys usually tend to experiment and look for different things. It probably will pass. If it does not, maybe talk to him, instead of spanking him. Maybe he isn't getting attention and this was the only thing that would get attention. Dont spank him though, talk to him.
2006-12-20 11:31:45 · answer #4 · answered by dmbgirlie93 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would continue to spank him every time you catch him in his sister's leotard and tights! If the hand and belt spankings don't seem to work maybe you should try a nice wood hairbrush, or get a wood paddle and bend him over a desk and paddle his little leotard wearing butt! You need to spank him every time he wears a leotard and tights. If you spank him properly he will change this behavior. You must not be spanking him hard enough or long enough. I guarentee that if you spank him real hard every time he wears a leotard and tights he will stop it!
2006-12-20 15:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by Don the Man 1 · 4⤊ 5⤋
Face it, your son is a cross-dresser. He enjoys both the feel of women's clothing, and how it makes him feel. Unless it is really just a phase, he will probably become either a transvestite (a straight man who dresses as a woman) or a homosexual (a gay man who may or may not dress as a woman).
There's nothing to "fix" - punishing him further will only ruin his self-confidence and destroy his faith in your unconditional love.
You should both enroll in counseling/therapy immediately. He obviously needs help at this confusing period in his life, and you need help to understand what he's going through.
Meanwhile, you should instruct your son not to touch his sister's belongings without her express permission. If he needs to masturbate he should do it in the bathroom or his own room, not someone else's. Also, I would strongly suggest giving up on the belt and spanking - he is too old for it, it obviously has not deterred him, and your physical dominance will not convince him that you are right.
Just remember, he is your son - you don't always have to understand him, but you do have to love him.
2006-12-20 11:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
If you want to find out what is wrong with your Son, so straight to the Bathroom, and there look in the mirror. The Answer to your sons problems will be starring back at you. Hitting him will not undo the damage you have done to him already. He will very likely never forgive you for what you have done to him over the years.
2015-12-19 09:15:09 · answer #7 · answered by Sparxz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone before you warp his mind .
2006-12-20 11:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Buy him his own!! He is just experimenting!!!!
2006-12-20 11:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋