i am heterosexual,i dont like the attention should i say something next time it happens if so what should i say?
2006-12-20 11:24:06 · 15 answers · asked by knowingisbeautiful 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
For me, I do the same thing about the eye whether it's a guy or gal. If I'm not interested I just make sure I don't make eye contact again. They get the hint.
What does the gender have to do with how to respond? Giving the eye is a pretty innocent way of seeing if someone's interested. I mean it's not like the elligible women wear stickers on their forehead designating what gender they're interested in. And if you're not interested, don't respond..
So take the time you've been using worrying about this and instead use the time to brag to your friends that everyone wants you. It's much more fun!
2006-12-20 11:56:51 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, what are you? You state that you're hetero, but a hetero what? Male? Female? MtoF? FtoM? CD? A CD FtoM?
If you're a straight female (which I'm going to assume that you are a female) being given "the eye" by other women, are these women you know to be lesbians? If yes, is it possible you're just assuming they're giving you "the eye" because you know that they're lesbians and you're feeling a bit uncomfortable and perhaps self-conscious around them.
And when you say giving you "the eye", what exactly do you mean by that? Do you have any solid reason to believe that they're looking at you in a more than innocent manner? If yes, and it makes you feel uncomfortable, than say something. But make sure that's what's really going on before you put both you and them in a potentially very uncomfortable situation.
I guess what I'm trying to say is sometimes we read into things either a)what we want to, or b)what we most fear. You could have issues regarding your own sexuality that need to be resolved. Or you could just need to realize that lesbian women don't "always" have sex on the mind.
But do you find it as uncomfortable and "disrespectful" when men give you "the eye" as when women do?
2006-12-20 20:12:01 · answer #2 · answered by pooge0287 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, did you put yourself in a position to be around lesbians? Second, what did you want to do if they give you the eye? Sometimes you have to watch your enviorment. Some women might be wanting to meet that special one and though you were it. I'm sure if they truly tried to pursue you but realzed that you weren't going for it that they would live you alone. However I know some will test their waters, but you just have to stay firm. If you don't want to given the eye, please don't put yourself in that positon. Also please don't take it to heart. Just find a kind way to let them know you are not interested. Hopes this help
2006-12-20 19:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by sexxy_fem1000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure it's not all in your head? Unless you live in San Francisco, they're probably just staring at your roots, your makeup job, and your outfit. Most people are not gay, and the common denominator of all these "eyes" is you.
2006-12-20 19:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, boo-hoo for you. you've got some ego. how do you think WE (females) feel about it? Do what I do. Get nasty and say "WTFs your problem?" Why should you care if you're nasty if you wanna get rid of a stranger? If you dislike it so much and can't just move on, why don't you just ignore it and mind your business.
2006-12-20 19:30:22 · answer #5 · answered by Iseult 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
disrespectful to whom?
If you like the person giving you "The eyes" then would you still be offended?
How on earth should a person let you know that they're interest?
2006-12-20 19:27:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Isn't this a bit like complaining that you've got too much money or too much free time?
Seriously though, if you don't like it you should (politely) inform her that it makes you uncomfortable. Maybe she doesn't realize it bothers you. Most guys would like it I think.
2006-12-20 19:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by Digital Haruspex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No enjoy it as long as it is only "the eye" Before to long you will be old and no one will give you "the eye"
2006-12-20 19:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by Lock 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there is another possibility: Maybe it is only you that thinks they are looking at you "as if they want me", and that you are a self-centered, narcissistic twit.
Maybe they are looking at you and saying: "What a self-centered, narcissistic twit."
2006-12-20 20:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're flirting and letting you know that they're interested. If you don't go that way, just say so.
2006-12-20 19:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋