I know a person that has extremely high expectations of me and because of these expectations, whenever I let them down they ignore me for days at a time. They often act very surprised and even disappointed when I dont know something that they do. Keeping in mind this person is 6 years older than me, has been to college, co owns a company and went to all four years of high school. I, on the other hand went to a 2 yr business high school and graduated at 16 which is why I'm missing vital history info. Right now I am in college majoring to be a Teacher so I still have a lot to learn. The other day we were talking and I didn’t know something and they got all weird and made this big deal about it. It made me feel like I was being put down. The next day I tried to call to chat and they hung up the phone on me. I feel like I’m under great pressure to live up to this persons standards and like there is no room for air or era.Is it wrong to end this friendship? Serious Responses only please.
2006-12-20 11:13:44 · 7 answers · asked by TeQN'ical 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
There exist companions disposed to break one another to pieces, but there exists a friend sticking closer than a brother." Proverbs 18:24
A real friend, then, sticks closer than a brother and is constant in his loyalty and friendliness. He is not warm and friendly one day and cold and aloof the next; as Proverbs 17:17 says: “A true companion is loving all the time, and is a brother that is born for when there is distress.”
A real friend comes to the aid of his companion that is in distress. In this regard we can learn much about friendship from the example of Jonathan and David.
Those qualities of love, loyalty and unselfishness and others that make up true friendship are all found in this outstanding example: “Jonathan’s very soul became bound up with the soul of David, and Jonathan began to love him as his own soul. And Jonathan and David proceeded to conclude a covenant, because of his loving him as his own soul. Further, Jonathan stripped himself of the sleeveless coat that was on him and gave it to David, and also his garments, and even his sword and his bow and his belt.” (1 Sam. 18:1, 3, 4)
Later, after Jonathan’s death at the battle of Mount Gilboa, David deeply lamented the loss of his friend and said: “I am distressed over you, my brother Jonathan, very pleasant you were to me. More wonderful was your love to me than the love from women.” (2 Sam. 1:26) From this example it is clear that “there exists a friend sticking closer than a brother.”
Please note that there was a very big age gap in this relationship. Much larger than you and your 'friend'. You see Jonathan was at least 65 while David was still very young.
Notice, too, that I have not told you what you should do. As, you are the one that must deal with your situation on a daily basis.
I have merely listened to an explanation and let God's Word touch your heart however it might.
My very best wishes for you!
I will certainly be your friend
2006-12-20 11:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by Livin In Myrtle Beach SC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really up to you , But do you feel you are living up to YOUR full potential or do you feel you can do better ? These are questions you should be asking yourself , Now this might sound weird to you but sit down in front of a mirror and ask yourself these questions I just asked you . You'll see it works ,it's only you and yourself and I don't believe you can lie to yourself ? Then go talk to this friend of yours and tell this friend let us sit down we need to talk and please let me talk and please don't intervene until I'm done okay ? Thank you ! Now I believe your expecting allot out of me and I believe one day I will be able to live up to your standards but until then , please don't give up on me but more so don't treat me so rudely that I feel I'm an idiot when I'm not . I'm not perfect and I will never be perfect , but neither are you because perfect people would have patience and compassion and most of all understanding and so far you've shown neither , so in the future if there is one for our friendship if I make a mistake try to be understanding that I'm still learning as you are , I believe we can learn from one another but if this is not in the cards then let us part now and not look back at what it could have been thank you for time .
2006-12-20 11:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by I'M JUST TRYING TO HELP YOU 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to allow people to treat me like this all of the time and I wasted so much energy trying to figure out what I was doing wrong. Please. This is not about high expectations. This is about control. This person has a certain amount of control of the relationship through their drama and disrespect. No one knows everything. Why should you feel the pressure to? And hanging up on you is totally unacceptable. Don't let ANYONE treat you like that. Have a heart to heart and tell him/her that you need to be treated with more respect or the friendship is finished. Friendships shouldn't make you feel bad about yourself.
2006-12-20 11:22:08 · answer #3 · answered by TP woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person is so smart and educated, then how come he/she is not trying to help you become a more informed person. Friends are there to help and guide you. Not put you down for something you are not.
2006-12-20 11:34:22 · answer #4 · answered by vsweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve to be validated. True friends will help you grow, not extinguish. It will only get worse as the relationship grows...get out now! Their loss not yours!
2006-12-20 11:18:39 · answer #5 · answered by Mona Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE THEM, i really think that you deserve much better friends than them. if they are really your friends, they wouldnt do such things to you. believe me, you gonna be fine without them.;)
2006-12-20 11:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by Sa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a guy isn't it? DUMP HIM. Find someone more worthy of your time.
2006-12-20 11:16:08 · answer #7 · answered by Child 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋