My ex turned up 3 hours late and drunk to see our son on his 11th birthday. He has always been violent when he's been drinking and i was rather scared as were my two boys (9 and 11.)
I have told the ex in the past not to come to my house with drink on him and now i don't know what to do. I don't want him to think it's ok for him to do what he likes and treat us like sh1t.
How can i stop him turning up drunk again ?
2006-12-20 11:08:28 · 16 answers · asked by shamoolax 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
LOCK THE DOORS!!!!! Get a restraing order on him until he gets some AA counseling. The boys need to see someone also, and u!
2006-12-20 11:11:12 · answer #1 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well you cant do anything to stop him from turning drunk again because if the jerk wants to drink, he's going to drink! There is a couple of things you can do though. You can tell him he cant see his kids unless he is sober.When he comes knockin on your door and he sounds drunk when you ask ''who is it?'' dont open the door.Tell him I TOLD YOU NOT TO COME BY HERE DRUNK, YOU'RE NOT GOING TO SEE YOUR KIDS.If he persists, take legal action. You can also get scheduled court dates for him to see his kids. I wish you and your kids the best of luck, merry christmas and happy holiday Sweety.
2006-12-20 19:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Loving My Babyboy ;) ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have some evidence of his being violent or abusive and a drunk you could probably get a lawyer to help impose some court ordered terms to his visitations with the kids.
2006-12-20 19:13:21 · answer #3 · answered by dudeman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
throw his drunk a$$ to the curb i may not know you but i doubt your kids deserve to have a horrible excuse for amn as a father let alone the fact that ne time your kids are with him he is most likely drunk out of his mind do you really think that that is a good role model to be around your kids if you don't want to get a restrainig order you can go to court to have full custody and if that is to much tell him straight up I DO NOT WANT YOU HERE IF YOU R GOING TO BE DRUNK AROUND THE KIDS I FYOU DON' AGREE YOU CAN GET THE HE11 OUT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-20 19:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by cuteteddy168 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shut the door in his face when he comes over drunk. He'll get the point when he can't see his kids after awhile.
2006-12-20 19:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Shamoolax:
It's not about you any longer and once you realize this then you will no what step to take next. My advise for you is to never waver or negotiate the well being of your children.
Best wishes,
2006-12-20 19:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by Fresh choice 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he shows up drunk, don't let him see the boys. if he does it call the police. after the 3rd time file for a PFA (protection from abuse). hey 3 strikes your out. those are your kids and you need to protect them with everything you have. good luck to you and your sons. HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!!!!!!
2006-12-20 19:17:44 · answer #7 · answered by maggie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just call the police and tell them he is there drunk and you do not want him there drunk explain your situation to them and i'm sure they will remove him from your residence
2006-12-20 19:11:58 · answer #8 · answered by roy40372 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order, and don't let him visit your kids until he's in AA and has been sober for at least a month (and possibly more, if you don't feel comfortable with just that).
2006-12-20 19:14:46 · answer #9 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Call the cops. Get a restraining order. Keep this loser wawy from you and your children!
2006-12-20 19:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋