2006-12-20 10:48:51 · 34 answers · asked by TruStar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not a big deal to me. To each his own.
I assume you mean something serious.
But I wouldn't recommend it. The 20 year old is looking for a father/Mother figure, not a partner. And the 37 year old is looking for either a selfish ego boost, or is afraid of women/men their own age, neither of which lends itself to a healthy relationship.
The 20 year old hasn't even made his/her own life yet, and wants someone to fill the role of parent to protect them from the slings and arrows of life rather than a partner that will share the hardships and growth experiences. To that person: Cut the umbilical and pursue relationship(s) that allow healthy growth and life-enhancing mistakes, aka maturity.
By going after someone whose acne has barely cleared up, the 37 year old is not threatened by someone who don't have enough life experience to challenge the 37 year olds failings or immaturities. A partner his/her age would demand more than simple security, so he/she is avoiding it by finding a woman from an age group that hasn't learned otherwise yet. To that person: It's finally time to grow up and enjoy a partner who wants what you are, not what you provide.
2006-12-20 11:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by Houston, we have a problem 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have no idea what a 20 year old would have in common with a 37 year old. In addition, the stages of life are so vastly different that I think it would be difficult to "grow old together"... look at it this way... when the older partner is 65, the younger one will only be 48. Some people could pull it off, I'm sure, but I know it wouldn't work for me!
2006-12-20 10:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by wnk 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a big age difference.but who knows it might work but the 37 year old needs to know when he/she is knocking on 50 the 20 year old will just be around 30 things might turn for the worse,then again it may last forever
2006-12-20 11:44:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a "big deal" at all... I dated people in their late 30s - early 40s since I was 18, it's never been a problem. Ironically, I continued dating people in the same "age bracket" as I got older, so now I'm 32, and married to a 36-year-old.
2006-12-20 10:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. My daughter is 18 years younger than her husband and there is no problem. As long as you love each other, can communicate on the same level (meaning you are both mature), have the same interests and enjoy each other's friends I say go for it. Life is too short to worry about age. As long as you are both of legal age and of sound mind you should do what makes you both happy.
2006-12-20 11:14:12 · answer #5 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally for me thats a huge jump in age but now adays age is just a number i wouldn't want to be the one telling my parents im going out with 37 year old man, yikes!!!
2006-12-20 10:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by Romy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello Dear,
Definitely not. It's a fine match either way....
Sexually a young man with an older woman is a good match in terms of Libido.....
Maturity-wise, a young woman with an older man can't be beat. They'll find a lot more in common, and intellectually, they'll be a great match.
I think you'll find that you'll be happy with the arrangement overall no matter which end you are on.
Namaste,
--Tom
2006-12-20 10:52:47 · answer #7 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Age doesn't matter, but 17 years difference may become an issue. I dated a guy who was 12 years older and I loved him-but then our age difference started to become uncomfortable. Just remember you are in a completely different stage in your life than he is...make sure to have fun before you regret it!!!!!
2006-12-20 10:53:24 · answer #8 · answered by BUTTERCUP 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It really would depend on your personality and his personality. Are you mature for your age? Is he immature for his?
Are you with him because of common interests? Because you like him as a person?
Or is it that you crave stability with an older man?
It just depends.
Good luck though!
2006-12-21 01:15:26 · answer #9 · answered by while_love_remains 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no. As long as they are both over 18, there shouldn't be a problem.
2006-12-20 10:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋