We have been together for nearly 10months now, we love each alot. one thing that has been bothering me for a while now is that me and my bf aren't officially going out yet. he says he wants to take it slow cos with his previous relationships they have all ended bad cos he was either trying to hard to make it work or not trying at all. he says he wants it to come naturally and spontaneously. i've learnt to respect his wishes. cos i understand the crap he went thru with his last gf. and also he doesn't go off with other girls and i dnt go off with other guys as we talked bout it. he says we're more or less going out but officially. My friends say after they met him thats he is affraid of committment cos he talks bout it with them cos he knows im concerned!!! what do you think???
2006-12-20 10:42:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you need to tell him exactly how you feel. No one else can possibly answer these questions. They don't know him and they don't know you. Talk to him. You're not the only one that has to do the understanding and work in any relationship--he does too. If he really does trust you and love you, then you'll both know. It's not always like a fairybook.
2006-12-20 10:47:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it quacks like a duck, walks like a duck and looks like a duck ... its a duck, i would say you guys are "going out" or boyfriend and girlfriend, if both of you are commited and dont go out with other people then those are the first signs towards being in a relationship, i would say he just does't want to call it a relationship because he is a commitment phobe and there are alot of guys out there like that, it doesn't mean he likes you any less, just that he needs time to cope and come to the terms that he is your boyfriend and that he is in a relationship... So many people in the same situation as you, you are in a relationship so give him time he will eventually come around, you can't blame him really for acting that way if he has been hurt before like you said!!
~cheers!!~
2006-12-20 10:50:32 · answer #2 · answered by Romy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by not going out ? What do you guys do other than bedroom stuff ?
I am lost.
To have a relationship with someone is to share the live together. That is to do everything together and to get to know that person in all aspects of live. If you are not doing stuff together then how will you know you are right for each other ?
2006-12-20 10:47:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can take legal action once the divorced was resolved the issue was over. She has a right to do anything she wants and Facebook became private she will have to add you as a friend in order to see it. If she kicked you out, she doesn't want to see you anymore. I can tell by the time you should be in your early 40s.
2016-05-23 02:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by Ann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what your question is. If you are wondering what he's thinking or feeling, I think you should sit down and talk to him. He's the one that knows what he's feeling. Much easier to ask than to play guessing games.
2006-12-20 10:45:47 · answer #5 · answered by rileysmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u should dump him.
2006-12-20 10:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by softball chick 01 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he is playing you.
2006-12-20 10:45:54 · answer #7 · answered by irishson 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋