PLEASE DON'T LIE I REALLY WANT TO KNOW IF ITS NORMAL OR NOT! THANK YOU FOR YOUR COMMENTS.
2006-12-20 10:41:44 · 37 answers · asked by Yaira C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What are you doing at married at 17? What on earth is a man of 31 thinking of? Is he trying to make you jealous? Does he enjoy the fact that you can get upset and jealous about him? If so, its highly likely that you have married someone of the same mental age maturity as yourself. If he isn't making you jealous deliberately, it is a problem, if not now, it will be in the near future. Do you know the reasons you're jealous? has he cheated on you before? does he flirt with other women? There are many things that should be taken into consideration before anyone can give you an answer.
2006-12-20 10:47:19 · answer #1 · answered by Agony Aunt 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
To all those people who keep saying its statutory rape for an older man to be with a 17 year old, sadly no its not. The National Age of Consent is 16. That means that when a girl or guy reaches 16 they can have sex with anyone they want. All a parent can do is claim Corruption of a Minor and be hope it sticks.
As for the jealousy? At 17 its quite natural to be jealous of anything you don't have. You obviously still have some maturing to do and just need to talk it out with your husband, as that what a husband and wife does.
What exactly does he do that makes you jealous or is it just a general thing?
Hope it helps and Happy Holidays.
2006-12-20 11:06:25 · answer #2 · answered by babylovesu06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's especially normal because you are 17 and don't know any better. And also you have not lived and this is a grown man that has did some living and probably still is. You have no other choice but to be jealous because you have not allow yourself time to develop interest. At 17, you should be graduating, planning your prom and going to college not doing meal plans and cleaning a house and waiting for your husband to come on. Develop some interests and hobbies that will occupy your time. You have too much time on your hands.
2006-12-20 11:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sure you have your reasons to marry him , even tho i think you are way too young.I think jealousy is in everybody but it is all about how we control it. If he is not giving you any reasons to be jealous and you are still jealous , i think it is normal trust me cuz you love him and you are young and he is way older. it will change by the time you get older, get more comfortable in your marriage and get more experience. you will learn to trust him sooner or later because if there is no trust in the relationship then it is going to be a rocky one for sure. I think for you it will happen with time. i know right now he is the center of your universe , you feel like you cant breathe if he isnot with you. those are normal feelings. he makes you feel secure in this life and you dont want to lose it . especially to another woman.I am 23 and my husband is 26 and we just got married. everyone told us we were young to get married ( altho 23 isnt that young, i have graduated from university 2 years ago) . if i were you instead of going into jealously craziness , when you are feeling jealous i would sit down and take a deep breath and think if he is good man, i am sure you dont want to mess things up with jealousy. cuz it can affect the relationship alot. and plus you are young and as i said give it time, by the time you have a career and a life that you wanted for your OWN self then you will have a good self esteem and you wont be jealous anymore. you will feel the way like " hey, he is a very lucky man to have a woman like me,, and if he cant appreciate that the hell with him". i hope i was somewhat helpful. so there is nth wrong with you hun...you just need more time to adjust and put your life in order . good luck .
2006-12-20 11:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
17!!!! you are not even done with high school yet. WOW!
How did your parent let you gets marry and not just to "ANY" guy but a FULL grown MAN.
Gets out!! Get out of the marriage NOW!!! before its too late if you are just jealous of him now because of his age (Don't ) wait around when he's start looking around at your (young) friends as his next wife. Or when he's SO old that YOU ending up being his care taker.
This marriage will not last or be very good.
I'm NOT sorry for being too rough on you but right now you don't even know WHO you are.
And you are still growing and learning by the way is there a kid on the way?
How many does he wants? Are you going to stay home and be a baby-making machine?
You will have to take care of these kids you know.
No more school.
No Diploma's
No job skills
No money
No life
2006-12-20 10:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by bottom dollar 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to find ways to build your self esteem, or this will turn into a real obsession hurting yourself and making your life miserable. It sounds as if the age difference is intimidating to you, probably because you feel you lack the experience that he has acquired with age; but that's OK, we all get there if we're lucky enough to live long enough. In the meantime, try to connect that gap you feel uncomfortable with. Find things you have in common that supports your self worth, and make sure that he contributes to this. Be proud of who you are and what you have to offer. 17 years old is a great time in life. It is also a time of discovering and exploring and learning new things with a fresh perspective that we tend to lose as we grow older. Make sure you are developing yourself and not tied into his life. Take courses at the university or junior college, if you're not already doing so. Keep some of your 17 year old friends around to keep you grounded. If you're still feeling miserable and you've tried counseling with this man or if there is something in his behavior that is cause for real suspicion; you may want to reconsider whether the whole relationship is really worth it.
2006-12-20 10:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by danaluana 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Personally, I believe that you are too young to be married to a 31 year old. You are experiencing feelings that are normal for 17 year olds to feel yet they are not creating healthy thoughts and feelings for your marriage. Your union could 'work' but it is going to need help. Have you talked to your husband about the way you feel? The both of you need to go to see a marriage counselor to work through this. Good luck.
2006-12-20 10:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by Edisto 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
At 17 you shouldn't be married to him. I have the same age difference between me and my guy, but I am 38 and he is 51. It is because you are 17 that you are jealous. You aren't mature enough to be 100% secure in yourself. Yeah it's a bad thing. You need to learn to be secure in yourself and your relationship with him, or you will be divorced before you are legal.
2006-12-20 13:05:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell what it is .. I been there I was 21 and my Ex was 31 when we met we was together for 5 yrs and after we are not together any more we both realize it was our age now i am 27 and he is 39 ..we did not have much in common
2006-12-20 10:47:40 · answer #9 · answered by nightsky1331 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know what's not normal...you being married, and being married to a man that can pass as your damn father! Srry, but that's called jail bait and I wouldn't use that excuse that "oh i'm 17, i'm immature" cuz i'm only a year older than you and I think you need some help.
2006-12-20 10:50:56 · answer #10 · answered by Rebel6 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋