Ok my soon to be ex husband and I am finally getting a divorce and our middle child is scared that she is not going to have a mom and dad.The kids lives with him and I see them all the time.How do I ease her mind that she will always have a mom and dad that loves her?
2006-12-20 10:41:36 · 6 answers · asked by dlsumers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First you need to let her know that you understand her feelings and that it's okay to be scared. But then have a heart to heart talk with her about it and let her know that the divorce is not her fault, and that you both love her and always will. Then repeat this over and over while you are also showing her that it is true by being there for her.
2006-12-20 10:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by hotgramma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she`s trying to tell you something in her own way about her anxiety and insecurity but you are not listening, if you dont, you`ll end up with a real ticking bomb of a child problem that wont go away(children dont understand the whys of the D they just want the family to remain whole)
2006-12-20 18:50:26 · answer #2 · answered by robert r 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are they living with their father?
Why would a mother give up her children. How could you?
Maybe that is why she feels the way she does. Nothing takes the place of a mother's love.
2006-12-20 18:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get a divorce.you married each other for a reason? correct the problems.she needs you both to act like adults and not fight.No if ands are buts.just do whats right and love each other.
2006-12-20 19:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by derrik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling for them. In the mean time reassure them that being divorce from their father does not mean you are divorcing them.
2006-12-20 18:45:12 · answer #5 · answered by ppv918 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her. How old is she
2006-12-20 18:44:42 · answer #6 · answered by Juls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋