My husband's cousin and wife could not have a child. My husband agreed to donate his sperm. He agreed that if anything ever happened to them, he would take care of the girl. When I married him, I also agreed to become a God parent. Now here we are, 15 years later. Mom was letting the girls 16 year old boyfriend stay all night and sleep in the daughter's bed. Dad (who only has an 8th grade education) tried to put a stop to it, but Mom said too bad. Long story short, he divorced her and has had to fight for custody. (She kept daughter from dad for 4 months) Mom also told daughter that my husband was her biological father. In the beginning, the daughter wanted a father/daughter relationship with my husband, until she found out we wouldn't let her do the things mom was letting her do (stay out until 1am, etc.) Dad can't seem to handle her on his visitation. She locks herself in her room, doesn't speak to him, etc. My question: She is being raised poorly, do we have any rights
2006-12-20 10:37:26 · 22 answers · asked by kelli140 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They did not use a sperm bank. He did not have sex with her. He "deposited" it in a jar and she supposibly took it to her doctor and told them it was her husbands. We thought they used it right at home with a syringe. They could not afford fertility treatments. He was best friends with them during this time. He knew them well. He just didn't think that they would divorce 15 years later. Who ever thinks that? I appreciate all the answers everyone has given. He did not sign any papers, and took the responsibility to raise her if anything ever happened to them (accident, etc.) That is covered in their will, just not covered in divorce. It is on their divorce court records that my husband is the biological father. Mom is a best friend to the daughter. We think the daughter doesn't want to upset Mom. She did want a relationship with my husband. Then she said "Mom said some things that made me think." Next thing we know, visitation stopped.
2006-12-20 23:10:13 · update #1
That's just disgusting. Why didn't his cousin's wife just go to a sperm bank/
2006-12-20 10:39:23 · answer #1 · answered by earthly_virgo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He gave up his rights of being a parent when he donated the sperm bank.
Many women today are going to the sperm bank knowing the father has no rights of the child.
That is just part of life, if you donate your blood and do you think that you have the right where exactly your whole blood goes to?
If you signed the papers of donating your sperms or even eggs, you have lost all rights to the child!
And being in the family make it worst for the child.
The best interest of the child needs to be admistered and both parents mom and dad needs to keep their responsbility of keeping the child emotionally, phyiscially, and spirityally safe at all times.
if you don't think the child is safe, call the department of children and families and let them investigate the sitution.
2006-12-20 10:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he would have parental rights, it couldn't have been a DONATION. I think there's no judge who would give parental rights. If the child is living in poor conditions: then you could write a letter to the child, asking if she would appreciate it if a legal battle would be ok. At least, that's something you'd have to find out. Although there might only be a very very slim chance the situation would change, the child could get more respect for the biological father, if she sees you would give the energy to a legal battle.
2006-12-20 10:40:18 · answer #3 · answered by · 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say no, neither one of you were there since the birth taking care of her i would consult an attourney, and at the very least have the ex husband take her to court, i mean she's only sixteen and she sleeps in the same bed as another guy from school, thats wrong on so many levels i dont even know where to start.
2006-12-20 10:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by Hanky P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now the only rights you have is as God parents. Now until you have DNA to establish parentage, you have no parental rights legally. Because her legal father is your brother in law. All you can do is pray and hop this only phase that will end very soon. Yeah, she was raised poorly but it can be corrected with patience and time.
2006-12-20 10:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's horrible, but I'm sorry to say I don't think you have very many rights on this case since your hubby did just donate it...you might be able to make a case if you can prove the mother is unfit and not doing what's best for the daughter though.
2006-12-20 10:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No rights whatsoever I am sorry to say the listed father on the Birth Cert. is the legal father and assumed under the law by statute regardless of actual physical parentage.
Stay out of this it's not your business.
2006-12-20 10:41:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really couldn't follow your story. The couple got divorsed and had a baby with your husbands sperm? You are poor? Financally? Your husband wants the kid even though he is only god parent? If they have all the legal documents, and he signed his sperm over, then it is like adoption.. he signed any rights away... if I understand your question
2006-12-20 10:40:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your rights depend on the state that you are in. As a biological father, some states insist that he pay child support. You will probably have to go to court for custody, but your best bet is to contact a family law lawyer and discuss your problem with them.
2006-12-20 10:57:39 · answer #9 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Before your husband donated his sperm he should have gotten to know these people better e.g how were they going to bring up the child, he is the biological father and have rights see a lawyer.
2006-12-20 10:46:23 · answer #10 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Aah.. i've got considered that action picture. it quite is something that i've got been questioning upon because I observed that action picture. Why the hell replaced into she indignant? I mean, i'm a woman and that i do no longer think of i may be indignant If my husband ever did that. And in that action picture it wasn't basically her spouse, Her mom and grandmother too did no longer help him which i got here upon a tad extraordinary. yet i think of, it quite is basically Indian mentality. And it quite is changing, surely ladies are donating their eggs presently which i hit upon tremendously fantastic. they are doing something good for the society.
2016-10-15 08:16:54 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋