She threw my wedding shower at her moms house, cheap...why I also paid for her dress and shoes for my wedding.
2006-12-20 10:34:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You simply say, "I'm really sorry to disappoint you, Emily, but I can't afford to throw your shower at the country club. If you want me to take care of it, we'll have to do it at the pizza parlor."
If she's so selfish that she can't handle hearing the truth, then to heck with her, she's not worth keeping as a friend.
2006-12-20 10:42:22 · answer #1 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that is an awesome idea. I would definitely ask your moms friend if she would help you and your sister organize a baby shower for your mom. Even though you and your sister are young, that is a very sweet thing to think about doing for your mom. She will be so appreciative of what you two will have done for her. Now as for the games to play, you can search ideas on the internet. There's a site called baby shower 101, that has some good ideas. For food ideas I would go with sandwiches(cut in four), different chips, dip, Lil smoked sausages in BBQ sauce(in a crock pot put about 2-3 bags of sausages,or more if you choose and a small jar of grape jelly and a container of cattleman's BBQ sauce. The jelly will melt in with the BBQ sauce and give it a very good flavor. You can also do the meatballs the same way. You could also do brownies, cookies, candy. For the drinks you could have Kool-Aid, cokes, tea, lemonade. And don't forget the baby shower cake. Make sure it is big enough to feed all of your guest and an extra piece for mom at midnight. Normally you can wait until your mom is about 7-8 months before throwing a baby shower. When you send out invitations to the guest you can suggest what your mom may need for the baby, or she may have registered some where for the things she needs. Make sure if she has a registry somewhere such as Target, Walmart, Sears, that it is listed in the invitation so people know what she needs and where to get it. You can send the invitations out 3-4 weeks before your scheduled baby shower date. I hope this helps you and your sister. Good Luck with everything and Congrats on a new sibiling!!!
2016-05-23 02:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by Ann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you can't afford to have the baby shower at the country club. If she doesn't like it she can look for someone else to give her the baby shower she wants. Honestly it is very rude and selfish to expect the host to throw a baby shower at an expensive place. You are the host, it is your money that is being spent on the shower, you have the right to plan the shower where ever you want to have it. She should just be greatful that you would throw her a baby shower.
2006-12-20 16:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the past a shower of any variety was held in the hostess home.The guest of honor did not have the nerve to ask for a shower nor. ask for a specific location.Whatever happenef to surprise showers and bringing the gift of your choice? If you don't know this person that well then just buy her a nice gift and let her "closer" friends have the privilege of hosting the country club affair.This should be a celebration of a blessed event, to share time with friends and give a gift for the baby. Let's try get back to being sincere with each other and not look at every event as a means to milk the cow dry.
2006-12-20 16:05:37 · answer #4 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not obligated to throw her a shower. Just because she gave you a wedding shower does not mean you must do something for her in return. If she is expecting you to give her one because she gave you one, then I would tell your so so friend to go go!!!
You don't need to give a reason, or even tell her that you can't give her a shower. Simply ignore it. Buy her a baby gift and don't even mention a shower. If she asks you to give one then and only then you should explain that as much as you would LOVE!! to give her one, you aren't able to because of finances.
Then get rid of her as a friend because a real friend would understand.
2006-12-20 11:08:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is a "so so friend" why bother????? Usually you do stuff for people who actually mean something to you like your best friend or your sister, cousin, etc...
But if you feel obligated - you can throw a nice shower at your house or at an inexpensive restaurant. There are so many things you can do to make it a nice affair without having to come out of pocket too much.
If it is to be a surprise - she should be lucky to have a friend like you who actually cares enough to want to give her a shower.
So so friends on my list - let someone else take the responsibility. She sounds very ungrateful.
2006-12-20 10:45:23 · answer #6 · answered by sugar_pink_candy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one should tell you where to throw her a baby shower. She shouldn't expect one at all and if she does get one then those decisions are made by the person giving it. It sounds like this isn't a good friend at all.
2006-12-20 10:36:34 · answer #7 · answered by strawberrycrush 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Say, "you're only a so-so friend, so I'm not throwing you a baby shower at an expensive club," that should work.
2006-12-20 10:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by Jimbo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey, there isn't one law that's gonna bring you in for not throwing a baby shower for your friend. Moreover, this is a so so friend. Get her one pack of diapers for the unborn, one fluffy slippers with the rabbit head on for her and send it through another friend.
2006-12-20 10:47:26 · answer #9 · answered by Zenithia Victora 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, don't say anything about it to her, if you still feel obligated to throw her a shower, throw it at your house or an inexpensive restaurant. She doesn't sound like she deserves anything extravagant, she should be delighted with what she gets! Good luck!
2006-12-20 10:39:30 · answer #10 · answered by dramatic_miss 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋