& be happy about it
(i'm talking about romance and please leave the work, friends & hobbies out of it)
thanx
2006-12-20 10:18:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think alot of times people put their happiness and value in their relationships. You never know when or if a "great Love" will come into your life so don't cancel out the idea just because it hasn't happened for you yet. Until then I think it's a good idea to find fulfillment and happiness in other ways. Don't think about it so much ( and believe me I know how hard that can be at times). As cliche as it sounds when you aren't looking for it it will come.
2006-12-20 10:28:06 · answer #1 · answered by babeejazzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The great love is a myth.
I have someone I am happy with, but a great love? Come down to reality and remember that you being a human means you will choose a human as a partner. Humans are not perfect therefor no such thing as a "the great love".
You may have someone in your life who has always been there for you. Who is always there when you find out the guy/girl you have been seeing is not the one. That person who after a couple years of not talking you can just call up and that person is happy to see you and you talk like it was yesterday.
This is the person who will be closest to the great love you are looking for. Sometimes this person is in front of our face but we are to blind to see...
Good luck!
2006-12-20 20:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After my separation I started a therapy and have found out I have several emotional problems that wouldnt show up at any other situations in my life but in relationships. At first I was shocked, but now I am ok with the fact that I wont ever get much out of relationships. My therapist is angry cause she thinks I should feel challenged to find "real love" but I have moved my expectations about relationships into a totally different level. I dont expect nor long for "great love" anymore. Every day is a blessing on its own just to be out of my marriage (not saying it was his fault, but ours). To be able to take care of myself and do lots of other things is great.
I havent given up the therapist :-) nor I havent given up males even though. I still enjoy intimacy and romance. I have just given up the idea of finding an ideal/right/correct/perfect/etc man to spend the last of my life with.
2006-12-20 19:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by Graça 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you might not want to hear this,but here goes.....".Seek you first the kingdom of God ,and all other things will be added unto you."I did this when I thought all was lost in life and love for me .I started living for God and others,forgetting self.One day I met that great love ,but didn't know it.I just happen to be in the right place at the right time,(not really ,God had a plan).I was talking about movies at a birthday party ,and a girl asked me some questions,I answered and found out she hadn't seen many films ,so I asked her out, just for a movie and some food; after that first date ,we made another ,and another and then we both knew we were meant to be life long soul mates.10 years later of marriage ,three kids and a dog.We are still living life's Great Love,....with work of-course ,for noting worth having is ever easy,......the work keeps it fresh and satisfying.
It seems like yesterday we met and fell in love, for the years have rolled by ,....but the love has Grown Strong.....Hope this helps...
2006-12-20 20:52:14 · answer #4 · answered by empathy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm at that point as we speak.
I'm content with my life and myself. I do not have to have a great love to continue to enjoy my life.
I came to this point after I had enough disappointment in too many relationships. After the last one, I realize that the men I meet are dishonest. Not criminally, but they are not who they think they are. I spent almost a year alone, analyzing who I am, what I want and who these men turn out to be.
Now, I know I was meant to be alone and I feel such a huge relief that I hope others can find what I have.
It is a fresh, free feeling that allows me to pursue my aspiration even as a single woman.
2006-12-20 18:35:24 · answer #5 · answered by nemesis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By not focusing solely on that aspect in life.It's only a possibility not necessarily a probability.If you focus only on that aspect then you may not be focusing on the lesson you're meant to learn right this moment.
People who seek love often don't find it because they aren't meant to at that moment in time.Perhaps a person who is seeking is meant to learn about themselves and understand what it is to be independent .You have to have a deep understanding of so many emotional and mental things as a lone person.Those lessons help you to learn and grow so that what if you DO find the Great Love.You know who you are and where you're going you know how to be independent and not clingy.So many fundamental lessons to learn in life before choosing to settle down into the Great Love...
Gosh I hope that makes sense those who rush in a search don't find the deeper answers to their questions they only glean the surface of them.
M.G
2006-12-20 18:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by Malia G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"the great love" is a fiction.
sorry, but it's an unrealistic expectation.
life ain't the movies.
real love is about giving, never about getting.
that you do have control over!
It's a choice you make every moment of every day.
it's not being a door mat or denying your own needs.
it's just being able to put the other person first, delaying your own gratification or changing what you want so both of you will want the same thing.
It's treating the people you care about like royalty, company, VIP's.
what goes around, comes around.
You get back what you put in.
2006-12-20 18:33:40 · answer #7 · answered by Nancy K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first step In The Great Love Is to love yourself first and being alone Is not so bad.When I found piece In me,myself then the best woman came Into my life and I couldnt be happier.
But this took time and trully loveing who I am and nothing else trully mattered.
This may not be the answer you sre looking for but I hope It helps you,My best to you.
2006-12-20 18:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I reconcile myself to the fact by saying "Finding the one great love is by enjoying One, one night stand at a time.".
2006-12-20 19:52:26 · answer #9 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I choose to believe that it will, despite the fact that it may not. But if anybody is going to get it it will be the people who believe they will.
2006-12-20 19:15:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋