so. i know this sounds silly, but i have been raised pretty sheltered. i have had sex a few times, but never had an orgasm. i have also played with myself a little, but never been able to make myself ***. so i bought a vibrator the other day, but i really have no idea how to use it. i really dont even know what im looking for..... as in like where to focus it. i dont know where the g spot is or anything. im serious, and dont know who to ask about someithing like this. any help.
2006-12-20 10:14:54 · 7 answers · asked by anachronism 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
From experience, some women have trouble having an orgasm.
1) Don't go for the g-spot. It's hard to find and harder to stimulate.
2) Focus on your clitoris. While insertion is fine, having a clit-centered orgasm is easier.
3) Find a quiet place, think of something to turn you on, and go for it. Just enjoy yourself!
2006-12-20 10:17:39 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
ok, here goes..
my suggestion would be to play with your vibro all around your genetilia to begin with as you will get used to the feeling of what you personally find enjoyable. Every person is different, some only come through penertration (viginal or anal) some only come through Clitoral stimulation. use the differnt sides of the toy not only the tip as this will create different levels of stimulas. If your not sure about your body then i suggest you take a mirror and check yourself out. Why not? its YOUR body isn't it? so why not look at it in all its glory!
If your not sure what the different parts are this may help: you have several main parts around your genetilia which react to sexual stimulas. You have two sections of labia (outer and inner lips) which can swell slightly when you are aroused and become sensitive. Your Clitoris which is the visible nobbly portion toward the front of your genetitia, this will protude out when you are aroused and become VERY sensitive (its the same as the top of a mans Penis so to begin with it should be treated with care - I have known women who have actually pee'd themselves or lost all sexual enjoyment for a few minutes when they've over stimulated their clit) and you have the elusive G spot which is up inside your Vigina about 3 inches and towards the front (next to your bladder) trust me, that can be a difficult one to track down!
I'd say play around with all these areas and see what happens. Also, it may help you if you fantasize while you are playing. There is this fantastic book called "Women on Top" by Nancy Friday, which if full of womens sexual fantasies... try reading a few before you settle down to it and that may help you to relax enough and get into the swing. lastly, i'd say don't panic or try too hard to achieve the holy grail. it'll come (no pun intended) but it won't if you try and chase it. an orgasm is different for every women some are like fireworks where you lose all control and get wobberly legs afterwards, others are like a warm rush between the legs which lasts for the moment and goes no further. You may have had one already but dismissed it because it didn't fit your expectations. but just enjoy the feeling and see where it takes you. xxxxx hope i've helped
2006-12-20 10:47:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
try to get a clitoral orgasm first, you know where your clit is right? just under the hood at the top. put the tip of the vibrator on that, lay back, close your eyes, breath deep, and think of orlando bloom.
2006-12-20 11:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck, there are whole books on the topic. One example to check out would be Lonnie G. Barbach's, For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality, or some of the suggestions that come up on Amazon when you search for this book. (My library actually has the book, but somehow I don't think I'd be too comfortable with a public copy...)
2006-12-20 10:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by EQ 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You should try researching it online. The best thing to do is just explor and expirement to see what feels good to you. Everyone is different so you can't expect to feel what other people feel when they do a certain move. Have fun.
2006-12-20 10:18:55 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the G-spot is on the inside of your vagina wall that faces your front. It is sponglike and gets hard like a walnut when stimulated.
2006-12-20 10:17:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
rent some dirty movies and just practice
2006-12-20 10:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by BROWNLYN 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋