Here's the situation:
My friend is openly gay (he's a guy), well every time he becomes friends with another guy, they fall madly in love with him! No joke!! Whether the guy's straight, questioning himself, or straight up gay! My friend's a great guy to be around so i understand why they like him so much...but every time another guy falls for him he comes crying to me and our other friend! I don't mind comforting him at all.
I think the biggest problem is that my friend brings all of this on himself, on accident. He's a very loud, fun-loving friendly person open to all things, and most of all, he's a flirt. He flirts with out knowing it and then later realizes that "....oh...i was flirting with him, that's why he likes me now..."
Is there anything I can say to him to help him out? Or just let all of this just run its course?
p.s. all the guys that fall in love with him get there hearts terribly broken... : (!
2006-12-20 10:09:57 · 8 answers · asked by Sun*kiss*t 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You have a very interesting friend :-)
No seriously, I know this might sound a bit strange, but I would try to find out with your friend, which things he said or which way he acted making the other guys fall in love.
Your friend obviously sends signals out, which can easily be missunderstood. So if he wants this problem to stop he has to direct this signals only to people he is interested as well.
He should definitely not loose his easy going, very communicative and friendly manner, but just apply it a bit more focussed.
2006-12-20 10:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their are a few possibilities here. You could be friends with benefits. But that is only going to work if you won't be jealous of each other when you are with different people. Other than that, you've just got to move on. Nothing stays the same. The planet is always moving into different seasons and one day follows another. You made your offer. Maybe give him a bit more time to think. If it is still no, then just decide to find a man that you want. Put your self out their and date. Maybe one day he will want a relationship with you, but to do that he will have to evolve and change. You can't sit around depressed because of him - that is not living - that is not right. But what is true now is that he is not the man of your dreams. If he were the man of your dreams it would be a two sided love. One sided affection is not love. You have a crush on something he is not. Life does not wait around or go backwards for anyone. Get someone in your life who wants you for you and stop worrying about your friend.
2016-03-13 09:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when you know that he is going to be around a lot of guys, go with him and make sure that he doesn't flirt! Ooh, and get him a boyfriend that he likes, so that he will be preoccupied with him! Oh, and honey, I know for a fact that strait up strait guys do fall for us gay guys! That is, if you know what buttons to push, and exactly how to talk! Apparently, your friend is gifted! I can do it, if I try, but on accident, that is some serious power he workin' with!!! lol! Tell him I said so, and email me! I love to chat! Just click on my avatar!
2006-12-20 10:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by §~You can't judge me!~§ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
". . . or straight up gay!" that's funny
straight up gay?? haha I'm sorry, I'm a dork.
But you should tell your friend to watch how he perceives himself, how he comes off to people, don't give people the wrong idea. He needs to just watch his behavior so that he doesn't seem so interested in a person making them interested in return.
Tell your friend I said good luck.
2006-12-20 10:21:41 · answer #4 · answered by Life Is Great 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahhhhh, sorry darl but straight out STRAIGHT guys do NOT fall for gays, they're obviously questioning themselves. i know a lot of straight guys that would cringe at the idea of him flirting with them.
anyways, he's having fun flirting, just let him. he'll learn in time
2006-12-20 10:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him what he is doing that is flirting so he won't do it anymore. He does not need a bad reputation to go with him in life.
2006-12-20 14:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop being such a flirt. He will never have any men friends that way.
2006-12-20 10:18:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't he want these guys to like him???
2006-12-20 11:56:22 · answer #8 · answered by D-Monster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋