2006-12-20 10:09:08 · 6 answers · asked by curious R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're already part way there. Jealousy is the absence of reason, but it is also the absence of love. Love and Jealousy can not exist in the same heart. If you are truly in love, there will never be any reason to become jealous. Honesty and trust are solid. You would never, ever question it. Let guys flirt with her: It just shows that they, like you, have excellent taste in women, but you know that none of them can compare to you; and she knows it, too. Why? Because you REALLY love each other. You don't care if she goes out with her friends. Why? Because she deserves nights without you, and you her, but also because you know that she's gonna tell her pals how awesome you are, how wonderful you treat her. Her pals will be jealous, and you being on her mind will keep other guys out.
No, jealousy is a losing proposition, my friend. Love, on the other hand, TRUE, unconditional LOVE, is a worthwhile endeavor, though.
2006-12-20 10:22:40 · answer #1 · answered by The Mystic One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a HUGE issue with my wife and i. we've been together for over 5 years, and it has never changed. She even gets jealous of good looking women on t.v. Everything is about me cheating on her, even though i've never even came close to it. it's all about TRUST. i cant' tell you how you can trust that person, but i can tell you that by not trusting them fully, you are slowly but SURELY pushing them away from you. Don't let this control you, think everytime before talking. I belive that even if you just keep most of it in your head, it will be better for the both of you. I don't think that there is a button to push to make you not jealous anymore, but there is self control on acting on it, like not saying something, not giving them the cold shoulder. If they didn't do anything wrong.....then don't act like they did.
2006-12-20 10:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by Puzzeled 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at least you know that you have no reason. Firstly you have to realise that this is your issue, not your partners. Then, like a lot of ppl are saying, you need to think rationally - do you have a reason to be jealous? I know sometimes you can't control the way you feel, so you just have to use your head to control your behaviours!
2006-12-20 10:18:37 · answer #3 · answered by Steph C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't get jealous without reason. That's how you do it. Realize that they aren't doing anything. Trust is the key. If you don't have that, you don't have a relationship.
2006-12-20 10:14:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep reminding yourself that you have no reason to be jealous. Your just going to start irritating the people you are being jealous over and push them further away.
2006-12-20 10:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife is like that. I hate it because she gets these ideas that a girl was looking at me or something and who gets in trouble? me. why? it doesn't make sense, and it's not fair.. and yet she says she trusts me. My recommendation would be that you just try to cool out... if you start feeling jealous, start thinking logically... does it make any sense? is it his/her fault you feel that way? If you trust your significant other, you should be able to talk about these feelings in a calm and rational way.
2006-12-20 10:13:05 · answer #6 · answered by Boludo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋