I am seeing a married man and I do not know how to stop. It has been 3 years already and He wont stop either.?

Answer 1

I call bullpucky.

You know how to stop; you just don't want to stop. At least take responsibility for your actions.

Answer 2

I understand it may be hard for you to let go because this married man is giving you everything you feel you need. But the bottom line is you are still alone, because you really don t have him, you are living on borrowed time. The best thing to do if you really want to make a brake for it is to wean yourself off of him. find more positive things to occupy your time. Go speed dating or take a vacation somewhere you have always wanted to go. Join a singles social group, many cities have them. The singles group consist of singles that get together once a week or month and do fun things together, this way you won t feel alone. Exchange your time with him by enrolling in a class at a community college or volunteer at a local food bank. The options are endless. You will find that the less time you allow him the easier it will be to let go of him. Doing this will also allow you to see him for the selfish, inconsiderate person he really is.

Answer 3

Not to be rude sweety, BUT THATS JUST SOOOO WRONG! You're like the other woman us women like to call sluts.Im not saying you are! Im just giving you an example.You need to break it off as soon as possible, 3 years is long enough! While you're at it, you should tell his wife.The poor woman probally has no idea she has a cheating husband.If he cheated with you once and left and you never saw him again, its wrong but its not AS WRONG.Understand? 3 Years! Thats just too long.You wont ever be his wife and if you do become his wife, he'll do the same to you.Put yourself in her shoes, would you like it if he were doing that 2 you? We have something called KARMA....it goes around. Good Luck Sweety, I hope you do the right thing and break this mess off! Happy Holidays.

Answer 4

Stopping isn't that hard. All you have to say is NO!

You know it is wrong to have an affair with a married man. You are destroying a family. He probably tells you his marriage is dead, but forgets to let his wife know it is dead.

Be the mature one here. Just make up your mind to STOP and DO IT.

Answer 5

Actually I would say that you don't WANT to stop. If you did it would have already ended. First you have to stop accepting his phone calls, get caller ID and don't pick up the phone when he calls, and don't call him back. If he shows up on your doorstep don't open the door. You have a CHOICE and you have chosen to have an adulterous affair with a married man, plain and simple.

Answer 6

I agree with the calling the wife thing. Boy that would make him stop really quick.

You are just asking to get yourself hurt. I mean, do you honestly see this going anywhere in the future? Of course he is not going to stop... he is getting everything that he wants. Don't be that girl, just end it now.

Answer 7

Of course he is not going to quit, until his wife catches him or you leave him alone. Why should he? He has the life a wife to fulfill his needs and a mistress to full fill whatever she doesn't feel like doing. And you are wasting the best years of your life on a man who is not has not respected his wife or you. Wake up and find a man who is available and willing to give you the respect you deserve. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 8

You are a pinhead. Classic example of why men do not respect women. Plenty of good guys available but noooooooooo you snobs have to have better so you will screw up relationships for your own selfish gain. I thought you women were noble, virtuous creatures. Oh so above folly. gutless wonder.

Answer 9

Fear of the Lord might help. But... in today's society & the friends people have, there's not much encouragement to live righteously. People mock it, ya know?
Exactly, Phys. For three years he's been kissing his wife & telling her he loves her, too. You like a two-timer, eh? Maybe you two-time him , too & ya'll think the more the merrier? Your living blind, sweety, & this guy has you ****whipped! I'm sorry you got caught up in the temptation & it's a habit. I hope you can do the right thing. {hug}
oops, I didn't mean to thumb up the bullpucky, answer! Like I said, temptation is called temptation because it's just that. Then if you really like it, it's hard to give up what one can start to idolize or really like or bad habit, etc. Strength & courage to you!

Answer 10

Would you like it if your father were seeing a woman while still married to your mother and the only thing she could think to offer as an answer when you asked her "Why?" was, "I didn't know how to stop."? Think about it....