When do you call it quits after being married for 8yrs and the relationship is done, mentally and physically?

Question

Sex is dead, communication is dead, Seems we are only there to support our three kids!

Answer 1

You call it quits when you have both talked calmly about the situation and realize there is no way to resolve the differences.

Answer 2

After you have tried everything in your power (and of course your spouse is willing to do the same) to make the marriage work. Go see a counselor, your pastor, or talk to someone that you can trust to see if you all can save the marriage. I have been married for almost 2 1/2 years and our marriage has been pretty rocky for the most part. Partly because of me, but he has something to do with it too. But our problems are nothing that we cannot turn into a positive situation. Once your spouse does something to upset you, whether it be infedelity or dishonesty or ... you begain to lose trust, hope and most of all energy for the relationship. It seems as if every little thing they do gets under your skin. I guess what I am saying is it all depends on what the problems that are going on. There's no sense in staying in a relationship for the kids. Like another person said you can still support your kids regardless of whether or not you and her stay together. Nobody deserves to be unhappy for any reason. But ask yourself, have you done everything in your power to be a good spouse? Do you think your mate has? Most of the time people have not. They are just tired of the situation and ready to throw in the towel. Pray about the situation (assuming your are religious). I hope everything works out for you. :)

Answer 3

Have you both agreed that neither one of you is growing in the relationship? Gotten counseling? Do either of you want to try and make it work?

If not, then it's probably best to call it quits. But I'd explore counseling together first, just because there are kids involved, and it's a big decision to split up the family. Have you worked on your sex life? Tried sex therapy? Couples counseling?

There are quite a few avenues to take before just throwing in the towel, especially if there is some acknowledgement that you still care for one another. It's a big decision.

Answer 4

After the two of you have seriously tried everything to refresh the relationship. Like maybe some marriage counseling, to get to the root of the problem. Many times couples tend to forget this is their partner not their enemy. And begin to take each other for granted. Must try to remember what made you fall in love in the first place. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 5

Hello, it should be ASAP!! I'm going on 15 years and it's been that way since 1993. I've just done everything on my own. My husband is the same way as yours. I take my kids on vacations alone, shopping alone, watch TV with them alone. Now they are 17 and almost 15 ( I see no reason for me to get out now) If you have 3 kids you will have the biggest mess with divorce. My friend is going through alot with her divorce. Her kids have no life, they are at her house on one weekend, then the following Wed. eve. Then his house the next weekend and the following Wed. They are shuffled like that all school year, then in the summer they are at her place a week, then his a week, then hers, his, hers....OMG IS it worth it? I don't think I've helped with your answer, but both ways well,.....sucks!!!!
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Answer 6

If things are that bad I guess now would be the approapiate time to leave the situation, since there are children involved please continue to support your children (I don't know how old they are but I hope that they are not to young to understand) You cannot allow yourself to go through this another second, you are probably young and have a chance at a real marriage someday of if even if you don't you might find a nice girlfriend to kick it around with and have fun along the way....Don't take it another second...Go now!
Peace be with you with God's Blessing

Answer 7

Have you tried counciling? If not, try it...can't hurt! However, if you are truely ready to move on then do it! Just be honest with her! And, do not stay together because of the kids. Kids are smart little creatures and can sense the unhappiness! Good luck to you and your family!

Answer 8

There was something once there that brought the two of you together and had 3 kids together. Have you tried counseling? If anything it will help you find out if there is anything left to work with.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

After praying, talking to your minister, seeing a counselor, talking it out with one another, figuring out how it would affect the kids, going on marriage retreats. Then try some more.