is it controlling to expect a courtesy call from ur spouse when they will be home late?

Answer 1

No, that is just considerate, so the spouse will not worry.

Answer 2

No, it's not controlling. I am married and I call my husband if I am going to be running late from work (like 30 minutes or more) just as a courtesy. When I got to the mall or something and say I decide to hang out with my cousin, I always call him to communicate that. That's the reasonable thing to do in my opinion.

Answer 3

from one married mans' point of view NO ......... unless...... everytime they do call it's 20 quesions. Look, if they are late often, and no call, there's a reason. Could be cheating, could be not wanting to explain every little detail of their lateness. If you don't use the 20questions apporcoch just about everytime it happens then this guy is being unreasonable. The first thing you learn about marriage is to make that call. If i were you, i would do this, ask to call when they are late (which i'm sure you've done) and when they do call, just go ok baby, i love you, see you when you get back around.....???? and let them answer. You got what you wanted, and they will get what they want, off the phone. If this doens't work .... well then....i'm sure some kind of marriage disaster will be awaiting you in the near future

Answer 4

It really depends. What do you consider late?? That could be the issue not the call. People see time differently.

Now if your wife always gets off work at 5 and is generally home by 5:30 but doesn't show until 7 then you deserved a call!! But if she gets home by 5:45 then it could be a bit controlling.

Answer 5

It is common courtesy to call if you will be later than usual. Your spouse may be waiting to eat until you get home.

It is controlling to demand that they call you when they will be late. Asking is not controlling, but acting like their parent is.

Answer 6

If the spouse gets home at the same time every day, then they should call if they're going to be late if they know the spouse at home will be worried. Of course, if they just stop to get gas or pick up a gallon of milk, I don't think they should have to call.

Answer 7

I was going to answer this question but then I saw the remark "lay down the law" and was laughing so hard that I cried. That is absurd. What kind of law laying is there going to be...."if you don't call me when you're going to be late, I'm leaving you!" Regardless...either spouse should call if they are going to be late more than an hour. As far as apologizing once they got home, the only apology should be if you didn't call.

Answer 8

Not at all! Just remember that goes both ways!

Let you spouse know you are not accusing them of anything but what if dinner had been on the table for 3 hours before he/she showed up or some thing bigger.

Good Luck!

Answer 9

.no its not , but if u ask a man that he will tell you its controlling if u asked him to give u a courtesy call .... they still think they r living at home with there mom.... don't have to check in , but if they get hurt and u didn't call "oh boy" then u don't care about them . we can't win when all a wife wants to do is keep her life and family in order then its controlling ..

Answer 10

No. It is disrespectful to your spouse to not even call to say you're going to be late. It only takes about 30 seconds to make a call.

Answer 11

No, I think it is a matter of common decency. When you have a loved one expecting you to give them a courtesy call and let them know you will be later than expected so they will not be worried. God bless****