i have been think about a guy at work i think of him alot i am married but were haveing problems i can see my self with this man we like each other even though i try to hide it i need help big time i care for my husband but careing is all
2006-12-20 09:53:22 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We all go through that!! It is normal, but you have to stop fantasizing about this other man. You committed you life to your husband in front of God and everyone else. Do not make a selfish mistake because Satan is tempting you!
Talk to your husband and let him know you are noticing your eyes wonder and it is because he does not make you fee wanted or special anymore. If he does nothing then tel him you are going to start counseling because you just don't feel like yourself. He will figure it out, mine did!
Good luck!!
Remember: God, Marriage and then everything else. Pray about your temptation ask God to help!
2006-12-20 09:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are using thoughts of this man to substitute for the issues in your marriage. Having an affair is not the answer. You need to confront and deal with the marriage issues before you can think about anything else.
Do not drag someone else into this situation. If you and your husband cannot work things out and divorce, then you are free to go after the guy at work.
2006-12-20 09:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no buttttt when you are married. Forget about the guy at work and work at your marriage-get counseling as a couple or discuss the issues you have with your husband. If things can't be worked out for whatever reason get a divorce and completely end the marriage before starting another relationship.
2006-12-20 10:09:16 · answer #3 · answered by Country girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, but you really better be surer befpore you have an affair. I mean if you get all responses that say it is okay and to go fr it, you are still going to be the onje that has to deal with the consequences. People do get divorced though. Perhaps if you are thinking that your marriage cannot be repaired you might consider it. Then, you are your office love can ride off into the sunset together. Of course, you have to be ready for the chance that your office flirtations may not turn into your next big love and you wind up alone.
in anycase, good luck - wishing you the best!
2006-12-20 09:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by BlankProfile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting sick of hearing all of these "holy-er than thou" people give advice about something that they don't have a clue about. Yes, you made a vow when you got married. Yes, we all know it is wrong to cheat. Yes, there will probably be problems created on both sides if you cheat. BUT,,,,,,,,Yes there are some people who feel like they are stuck in a relationship that is lacking but they can't get out of it easily. There are extenuating circumstances that some people may never face while others have to deal with them everyday.
Honey, make up your own mind and if fooling around is what you choose, have a great time. Don't someone who isn't married or is in a "perfect" relationship tell you how to live.
2006-12-20 10:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by duncabby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Before you even think about pursuing ANYTHING with this guy you need to resolve things with your husband. If you don't it will only lead to a messy drama. When things aren't going well in your marriage it is easier to imagine what it would be like with someone else. But if you start something with this guy before figuring out what you and your husband are doing you may end up with out either of them. Good Luck
2006-12-20 09:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by hockey2525 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure what ever problem you and your husband are have came from something that has nothing to do with the guy at work but if its taking a long time to solve them it may be because your mind is on someone new solve your problem with your husband even if you don't stay together it will teach you something. if you jump to a new guy you may drag problems with you the grass is always greener on the other side sure he's cool or what ever but he may scratch his butt with his toothbrush now that's a problem
2006-12-20 10:06:50 · answer #7 · answered by missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the problem with our society...I guess he's not so perfect after all. I'll just find someone else who I'll find out is not perfect in a couple of years. And in doing all this I'll break my children's hearts. Sounds like a grand idea huh?
What is wrong with you people. I think you're the married butt.
2006-12-20 11:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having an affair is never the answer to anything. Try talking to your husband because there is obviously something missing in your marriage that he is not fulfilling.
2006-12-20 09:57:15 · answer #9 · answered by ppv918 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just becos you have problems with your married life i think thats why you kinda started likjing this guy. Think of the I DO
2006-12-20 10:05:45 · answer #10 · answered by Juls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋